I keen to write my experience as
care giver to my stroke wife for more 15
years, through my experienced and with the ability to adopted the patient as
the responsibility of husband to take care and give her full support either
emotionally and her daily living need. On other word caring by holistic
approach able to speed up the healing process and changes to recover back to
normal position is more and I manage to give her the hope for future life and
she has recover up to 90 % back to normal condition.
My key factor to be a successful
caregiver is by put intention to take
care my wife as the responsibility of a husband that been lay down by my
religious marriage guideline. One of the responsibility is to take care wife
health and he happiness. As a husband I am committed to take care her health
after 20 years of our marriage she give her sacrifice to give birth my kids for
seven times. This prove that my wife is a good wife and has no complain of
suffering herself to carry our baby for the time of 9 months before gift birth.
I am so sympathy with her sacrifice and able to face pain and sorrow just to
please her husband desire.
When she at the age of 42, suddenly
she was attack by stroke (AVM) and as a result she was paralyze for half body
on the right side. After warded for 30 days she was discharge from hospital and
started the home care. At the first day at home she cannot walk, very hard to
speak and need help for her daily living need (DLN). I have to do everything by
myself due to the incident when I hired the maid she always compliant and not
satisfied with the service given. At that time I am still working as Senior
Manager at Private Company. Every day
when I went home she always cry and tear dropped at her chick. Thus make me worried and to avoid her become
more depress and tension I made a decision to let go the maid and put the
intention to take care of her DLN by
myself and assist by my children.
For the first year as caregiver I
manage to settle my task successfully. As the time passed for third year.
Everything was change, at most her attitude and moral been rivers to be depress
and easily be a bad mood person. This
made me so tired to take care of her desire and attitude and make me bore and
start coming of negative talk in my mind that my wife is a burden to my life.
This the time that is very critical that I am facing and there was a desire to
marriage for second wife. But when I made my personal analyze If I do so that
cannot settle my problem if not lucky may be a new problem will be arise and
will make my position more stress and possibly will effect my future life, So I
made determination to continue my
responsibility as husband and continue as caregiver to my wife.
From that date I made a paradigm
shift by revise my personal effort and put intention that all the problem
facing by me is a test form His Mercy God Allah. I have to face all the test
with passion and pray to Allah for His help and pleasance and if I am success
to face the challenge given, the reward is great at the hereafter. The reward
that every body desire and hope is the get into heaven. With thus intention I
manage to face all the pain and sorrow and with patience as the time goes, it
become part of my daily routine.
After 15 years as caregiver I am
adopted all the skill and knowledge what I am have what I am called as holistic
approach treatment for stroke patient. Alhamdulillah (thank God) my wife able
to get batter healing process and now
she able to recover back nearly 90% back to normal. As at current status she
manage to walk without stick, able to do herself for HLN and the most important
is that she has recover back to normal person in term her thinking, memory and
very confident for her future life.
The latest development with my wife
performance, one doctor whose treat my wife admire my effort to give special
care to able my wife healing process go smooth and he endorse my method of
treatment is better to explore more for future method of prolong sickness
patient. As result of my success he appoint me as a consultant to his pilot
project to set up a center for holistic treatment.
As caregiver for the first one year
is the time I learnt a lot about taking care our lover who need aide nearly 100
% of her daily living need. As the time goes on, she has regain her movement,
the mental healing is more improve and she manage to talk as normal person.
During this time it happen in the range of 3,4, and 5th year, Thus
the critical and hard time for to face the attitude of stroke survivor which
are very sensitive, fussy, moody that made me as caregiver very stress to
handle. Thus the time I am nearly give up to take care of her. During this
critical situation I has to use all my
soft skill regarding, motivation, communication, interpersonal, time management
and reactive thinking, Alhamdulillah with
patient I mange to resolved all the hardship and problems facing and
finally with the blessing of God, I able to prolong my responsibility to take
care my stroke wife with successfully gain her healing process and till now
after 15 years time, she war recover back her confident, cheerful live and
the most important achievement is that
she can adopted the handicap of her right arm and leg to keep on the live as
normal person, thus tons of experience I learnt in the time frame of 15 years,
is a valuable knowledge that need to share with publics, who are now caring
their spouse as the stroke survivor. By writing my experience in this book all
our friend over the world can get the
basic info as guidance to those newly get the title of a caregiver of stroke
survivor.
I hope my experience which I am
recorded in this book will be one of the source for those faces the same
problem or those who has to take care stroke survivor. Hopefully this book can
help those facing depress and stress as a care giver to try my method of
healing process to recover back the stroke patient and also to manager him or
herself as caregiver which may be facing stress and depress situation .God
blessing.
1.
Emotional And Behavioral Changes After Stroke
Emotional Factors In Recovery
Following a stroke, my wife become
anxiety, fear, and frustration at the first day she recover and bring back
home. Initially she suffer of confusion
that makes it impossible to do the simplest mental tasks. She often feel
helpless and dependent, and her sense of self-worth is diminished. I as
caregiver and all family members are important to understand the survivor's
limitations and allow an appropriate time for recovery. Self-worth, confidence and
enjoyment of life will gradually return. My wife as first few month her healing
progress momentum very slow. I as caregiver and responsible husband has to be
very patient to look after her that need a comprehensive care.
What I am doing, try so much to give encouragement to her. It is an extremely
important motivating factor for stroke survivors. Caregivers should avoid being
critical. So what I am doing, try to accept that my wife been attacked by
stroke is plan by the Greater Creator Allah. The happening is planned by Allah
for the good of our self. Avoid any nagging tends to upset and anger stroke
survivors, and discourages rather than encourages effort.
Determination is essential in
overcoming the effects of a stroke. Patients must be willing to adapt to the
disability and be convinced that by therapy they will improve. It has to be
stressed that the will to recover does pay off. Nothing helps raise the body
and spirit of the survivor of a recent stroke like seeing how their own hard
work helps their recovery. the hope for
her recovery is merging by 6 month duration of home rehabilitation. She start
to gain confident to do herself with minimum
movement.
ü Set attainable goals
the road to recovery is built of simple
achievements.
ü Involve the survivor in daily activities and routines.
ü Encourage independent activities, while recognizing the
survivor's
limitations.
ü Try to maintain social contacts within the family and
community.
I am practiced the following
guidelines that encourage a positive recovery.
1.
Set attainable goals
the road to recovery is built of simple achievements.
What I am doing is to put the hope that my wife will recover
back to normal position if we pray to the God, Allah The Mercy. My wife was
coaching to perform pray and put the hope to Allah that the recovery process is
going to improve her disability and handicap. I support and courage her to do
the exercise even a simple movement of finger, leg, tight and so forth. By
doing this she will be more confident to do the movement of her muscle and bit
by bit the improvement and changes occur. This bring her confident to the
future live. This is the most effective inside booster to speed up her healing
process. Alhamdulillah the change is great and her achievement very tremendous.
2.
Involve the survivor in daily activities and routines.
The most important thing try to gain back patient confident,
the disability of right arm and leg after stroke attack was limited her
movement and make her difficulties to do her daily living need (DLN). For the
few week I am doing all her DLN but after six moth she recovery slightly
better, then she manage to do herself a few activity such as drinking and
eating. I am keeping coaching and giving motivation to her that her healing for
recovery are better and faster. Thus giving her inner self confidence and to
achieve better will and hope for her to be independent. Alhamdulillah it seem
the strategy was successful and able her to heal faster.
3.
Encourage independent activities, while recognizing the
survivor's limitations.
I give encourage to my wife to be independent in doing her
DLN. A few accident happen when she drop her glass and the glass break. She was
so frustrated and always said that her now to be disable person that can do
nothing, But I and my family try to motivate her that she has to learn again to
do herself with certain limitation. The
recovery process what we called as the new born child has to learn new
thing every day to able her be an independent person as the child grow up, By
giving fully support and motivate her every day it seem batter improvement for
her to gain recover confident to be independent person, Allhamdulillah after
one year we did this process she has acquire more healing for arm and leg
movement and able to do small thing by herself. Now the time pass over 15 year,
she manage to do a light job at home such as washing cloths by washing machine,
washing plate and glass and other
kitchen ware. She manage to take bath by herself. Those achievement make her
more confidence of recovery back.
The Effects of Stroke
Different sides of the brain deal
with different areas of human intellectual functioning. Generally speaking,
brain damage due to a stroke causes the kinds of problems noted below. However,
it is important to note that brain injury in left-handed individuals results in
effects that are exactly the opposite of those explained below.
Left Brain Injury (right-sided weakness (hemiplegia) )
Those with left brain injury and a
paralyzed right side are more likely to have problems with speech and language.
Apart from language problems, these individuals tend to be cautious, hesitant,
anxious and disorganized when faced with an unfamiliar problem. Many of those
with right hemiplegia need frequent assurance that they are doing okay, with
lots of immediate positive feedback. Breaking tasks down into steps and
practicing often will aid learning.
This happen to my
wife, nearly one month after stroke attack, my wife have problem with
speech, she will take some time to say a words, neglect to talk to people. Most
of the day she like to be silent. She also happen to be very slow memory and
take some time to recognize something, even myself whose take care of her every
day she take a few minutes to recognize at the time in the morning when I meet
her. These situation slowly gone after one month and she able to go back to
normal after one year. The role of caregiver at this point is very crucial. He
must be patient and must put intention try his best to help patient to recover
their memory by consistently communicate with stroke survivor. Beside that
caregiver must invoke to God to get His help for faster healing process of the
stroke survivor. Alhamdulillah by keep on doing this my wife able to regain
back her speech and memory after one and half year.
.
Right brain injury (left hemiplegia)
People often assume that if a stroke
has not affected language and speech, a stroke survivor is not impaired. This
is not true! Left hemiplegia may result in problems with spatial-perceptual
tasks - the ability to judge distance, size, position, rate of movement, form
and how parts relate to wholes. People with severe spatial-perceptual deficits
may have more trouble with self-care than those with equally severe language
deficits. They may not be able to read a paper - not because they can't read,
but because they lose their place on the page. They tend to have a behavioral
style that is too quick and impulsive, and behave in a way that makes
overestimating their abilities easy. They are often unaware of their deficits,
and may think themselves capable of tasks they are not-driving for instance,
which even with minor spatial-perceptual disabilities can be dangerous.
One-side neglect
Many stroke survivors have visual
field defects - up to half their visual field (what they can see with both eyes)
is, in simplest terms, not there. This is usually compensated for by turning
the head. However, some individuals, usually those with left hemiplegia, have
what ranges from a reduced to no sense that their left side exists, or that
anything or anybody approaching from that side exists. This is called neglect,
and is potentially isolating for these individuals.
Depression
Depression resulting from a stroke
is one of the most difficult factors for a spouse and family to deal with. A
certain amount of crying, though upsetting to the family, may be a natural and
normal emotional response to the stroke survivor's greatly changed
circumstances. However, chemical changes caused by stroke may result in deeper
depression and apathy, with the survivor appearing passive and detached, a
state that will usually improve with time.
This situation is absolute true happen to my wife, she most
likely to cry every times my relative come to see her, some time she do not
want to talk. What I am doing to help her, by communicate to her regularly
every day, keep on talking and give her confident that the situation happen
just for a few month, she must have the strong will to try herself to regain
back her ability to move, to talk, to walk and so forth. By doing this she will
put intention to be dedicated keep on trying her best to do the activities that
can recover back her normal condition as before stroke attack. Allahmdulillah
this strategy is able to give a good healing for her after one year.
Emotional Liability
Often, excessive crying seems to
have little relationship to sadness or what is happening around the survivor.
This loss of emotional control due to brain injury is called emotional
liability. Someone who is emotionally labile may not be sad when crying, happy
when laughing, or angry when appearing hostile. If possible, interrupting the
emotional behavior of such a person (by clapping hands or snapping fingers) is
usually a good idea, saving them embarrassment and fatigue.
What I am doing to recover back my wife from emotional
problem, by giving special care to her, I am caring her as like caring of newly
born baby. For the first few months I have to accord her at all the day in the
room. Always beside her and communicate to her. Sleeping together, day and
night. Her emotional slowly back to normal after one year duration of taking
her personally by me.
By doing this special care to her, I mange to avoid her from
depress and think negatively, by looking to her right arm and leg cannot move,
her mind thinking of be a disable person, worry her future will not able to
perform as a good wife, cannot look after her child and thousand of
questioning.
To correct her
negative thinking the spouse must show his sincerity and honesty in taking care
during this critical situation. Caregiver must be patient, to deal with stroke
survivor. Because the healing process may take some time, if we are not patient
and give up half way, the survivor will dump with problem and stress. This will
effect the healing process and also be a resistant that can slow down the
recovery process.
Change in Personality
Changes in personality and emotional
response are common after a stroke. The type, size and location of a stroke, as
well as the individual's previous personality all have a bearing on what these
changes will be. The stroke survivor may seem a different person, showing
feelings of anger, caution or anxiety that are completely out of character. The
affected individual may also feel this-and feel less of a person.
This is the most difficult and challenge situation to be
face by caregiver. For the first few month we cannot predict patient
personality, keep on changing from month to month. After some time the
caregiver facing stress situation and if we cannot coop up and manage our
stress it to be depression. This happen to me for the second year of caring my stroke wife. In my
case I had to support with Alprazolam (zanex) to release my stress, but this
medication only effective for some time only.
To resolve this problem. I am doing the following action:
- Pray (solat) to Allah, zikir in the mid night (10,000) times said :
“ ALLAHU
AKBAR” ( Allah The Great).
- Pray for salvation please Allah to forgive any sin, ask for His
Pleasure
and give His consent to able my self to take care of my
wife.
- Recite Quran, understanding the meaning and their teach, try to implement in my daily life. (this to be routine of daily activities, I has to schedule my dairy .
- Donation to be a daily routine ( If I have more money, amount of donation is more, when I have little money, donate by small amount, try to be consistent).
Thus the personal review and practiced that has heal my
depression and stress. When myself able to regain confidence and back to
normal, I able to concentrate to take care to my disable wife. By put my
intention to fulfill my obligation as a husband that was ordinance by Islam. By
this intention, Allah give me the confident, patient and doing with sincerity.
By setting my mind and applied the paradigm shift, all the burden and hardship
which I am facing in taking care my wife for more 15 years was able to be a
motivation factor for me to get Allah reward in hereafter. Hoping of Paradise.
When my wife saw the sincerity and dedication that been
shown by her husband in taking care her, from time to time her morality was
improved, she can think positively and able to accepts the handicap given by
Allah is part of the process to uplift the rank of His humble and to delete the
sin which was done before, That the promise of Allah to those who is patient
with His test and challenge in this universe. Amin.
Memory Deficits
Almost any brain injury, however
slight, may cause memory problems, contributing to language, spatial-perceptual
and retention span difficulties. For most stroke survivors, remembering old
information (from before the stroke) remains easy, while new learning is
difficult.
My wife happen at early stage of recovery after stroke attack her memory was
seriously deficits. She some time to
recognize my self even I just sit in
front of her. After a few minute afterward she can remember me. This situation
took about three months. If the person is rarely she meet, the time gaps to
recover back her deficit memory will take longer time. In a few cases she will
take more than 15 to 5 minute to reconaize something,
After 5 years, she able to recover back her memory. What my
wife did is everyday she recite Quran. Beside that most of the midnight of the
week she did special prayer and she doa to Allah asked His forgiveness and
pleasant to heal her pain and sorrow. Now she back to normal in term of memory
and her thinking and imagination. Some time her memory is better than me.Thank
God , Allah the mighty.
Generalization
Some stroke survivors are capable of
learning new information, but are unable to apply that learning to other
similar situations (generalization). For instance, they may make safe transfers
to and from a wheelchair while in the hospital, but are unable to once at home.
They may become very sensitive to and often fearful of changes in their
environment, and will thus benefit from, and be comforted by, an effectively
established routine.
Generalization situation was happen
to my wife, at the early stage of home treatment she neglect to learn new
things, she look hopeless and always asked for my help for everything of he
daily life needs. To overcome this attitude, what I am doing by taking care her
desire and always with her at the early stage of home rehilibitation, it take
me about I year to slowly put some effort to her and give morale support and
always talk to her how to recover back her ability to be independent. By doing
this technique she start to regain confident after 12 months, and bit by bit
she try to put herself in the position of stroke recover that will be heal and
be as normal as before she was attack by stroke.
Beside that I coaching her to stay at mid night to perform
solat tahajjud, and back to Allah to give His pleasant, so that my wife able to
gain back her confident and slowly be a independent person in dealing and
preparing her personal daily need. With the help of Allah after one year she
start to gain back her confident and her memory becoming batter from time to
time. Now the time passed away about 15 year, my wife able to gain back her
confident and her memory healing come to nearly 99 % of normal person.
Alhamdulillah (thanks God. The lesson from my wife achievement in regain back
her confident and she more or less can deal all the daily need of her by her
own. This is a positive developmet she has
shown and proven that the personal confident and put the hope to Allah
is the most effective instrument to gain backlo
Sensory deprivation and over-stimulation
Many recent stroke survivors are
overwhelmed by too much stimulation. When visiting, go singly or in small,
quiet groups, and speak one at a time.
Conversely, some stroke survivors
may have diminished sensations of touch, pressure, sight or pain, causing them
to suffer a constant level of sensory deprivation, leading to psychological
stress. The quiet of night may compound this-a radio playing softly or a soft
light left on may help.
Quality Control
Even minor brain damage affects a
memory related area of behavior called quality control. This refers to how well
individuals check and control their own behavior. A previously fastidious
person may fail to bathe or zip his fly, or a formerly polite person may become
rude and profane. Caregivers need to be aware of these deficits, and praise
appropriate efforts to compensate for them.
2. Tips
How To Take Care For Stroke Survivor
The tips mentioned below is one method of how the kin caregivers to help patients to recover
(Insya Allah).
Stroke can strike anybody with out
any earlier sign. When it happens the patient and their family will shock and
panic situation. They we will bring the patient to the hospital for
emergency treatment, after a few days (usually more than two weeks) warded in
the hospital and when the patient's condition is relatively stable, the doctor
will ask The family took home patients to stay at home and follow-up treatment
such as physiotherapy treatment and also
get follow up treatment in hospital.
Based on my experience taking care
of my paralyzed wife. On the first day she discharged from hospital and took
her home, the following actions should
be done:
Tips 1: kin prepared with the paradigm shift ( facing the
patient with totally change his/her characters).
Next of kin must make preparations
to make a change in mindset as starting on the day the patient was brought back
home, the patient need the help from others for their daily life.
Our minds must be made one change
that perception (husband / wife) who became one of the important people in your
family has been unable to help us again. Means starting on the day we had to do
all the work related to the household in isolation. (Even more so if the kids
are still small).
Tips 2: Fed drugs according to the schedule prescribed by
doctor..
We need to ensure patients were fed
drugs according to the schedule prescribed by doctor. To ensure the patient's
medication needs to be completed. Should be provided a special diary, bag
clocked drugs given to patients. This method can avoid giving medication to
patients forget. If not noted in the diary likely forgot to apply the medicine
and it can cause the patient at risk to be attacked again by a stroke. The risk
of a second stroke catfish will cause the process to be more complicated
treatments and patients will be more severe.
Tips 3: Need mixes
personal knowledge on the nature of patients
.
We'll take care of the patient must
make reading about some changes in personal attitudes will happen to stroke
patients.
a.
Need to Keep Emotions :
Change the patient's personal
characteristics is that it is easy to be sensitive, fast and sulk. This occurs
because before the attack, stroke pain, all he can do his own work, and he will
do so in accordance with the custom of yourself. When he was sick cause he
could not do alone, therefore if patients need something to obtain the
assistance of others. If demand is slow cashed out by the guard, he will easily
sensitive, whether angry, nag or cry, so we are taking care of patients should
be proactive, and ensure all matters
required by the patient as soon as possible.
.
One very important thing is to keep
emotions and feelings of patients.
b.
Patients should undergo
physiotherapy / traditional massage.
Physiotherapy treatment is one way
of treatment recommended by doctors for stroke patients recover. Some forms of
exercise will be given to the patient by a member of physiotherapy. Training to
move the limb through physiotherapy will thereby all patients with weak nerves
returned functions like the original. This
FISOTHERAPHY take some time
(usually takes 3-4 months or longer).
In addition FISOTHERAPHY treatment, TRADITIONAL massage is also very
important, my experience treating his wife found traditional massage can
recover quicker to recover compared with physiotherapy, However be careful
spills masseur is properly skilled.
My wife able to walk with out using
cane after 6 months of intensive traditional massage. Every season it took
about 4 hour duration. Other thing that the
massager doing is by talking to the patient while her is massaging, by
doing this, she able to recover back patient memory and give a positive impact
for my wife level of confident to proceed her life as a handicap person if the
heal process do not success fully.
Tips 4: Help patients
to perform prayers (solat), read books
related to religious teaching and understanding.
Primary caregivers need help
patients to perform prayer five times a
day without fail, . To make it easier for patients appropriate time should be
set to enable the shape of the amblition (wudud) can be used to pray twice, for instance -
time for zohor prayer at the end of time and the time of Asr
prayers at the beginning of time, Maghrib and Isha at the end of the period at
the beginning of time. Morning prayers can be at the beginning or at the end of
time, according to the ability of the patient to wake up in the morning.
Religious books should also be given
to stroke patients from time to time. Because patients have a lot of free time,
with emphasis on reading religious books, it will provide an understanding of
religion to its readers. If this reading culture in the minds of patients
entered, it will provide a change of mindset to ensure that patients,
especially for chronic pain given by God to man is one of the ways of God to
remove our sins that are past. If we are patient and pleased to receive it, we
will be rewarded very much in the afterlife and heaven are filled with
enjoyment.
Tips 5: Program Schedule To Enable The Patient Exercise, Socialize And Shopping.
We also need to set the table so
that the patient can exercise (walking with strollers), go to the resort, and
shopping. If held this schedule will enable patients to enjoy the leisure,
picnics and shopping along another family, it will give patients confident and
set his mind that he also can perform
various activities such as healthy people as well. This method I found deeply
affects the recovery of the patient mind to give new determination that he too
can live like other people healthy, When the mind has been restored perception
of life it will help with quicker to recover ill stroke.
Socializing activities may also
reduce patient stress (because the lame will feel stress when he was just
sitting on the bed nearly 24 hours).
Stress management is important to prevent patients suffer from a depressive
illness.
Tips 6: Given
immediate family information and understanding of stroke patients.
All immediate family of the patient
should be given a description and understanding of stroke patients. Informed
that stroke patients will change in character compared with the period before
the onset of stroke. When all the family understand the taboos care of stroke patients. It will help the patient
from feeling the pressure (stress). Patients cared for by family members will
give hope to patients that it can be
cured, if the patient has a positive mindset, it will help to quickly recover
and live in a playful manner.
Conversely, if the majority of kin
take a non-static to terhaap patients, helping casualness, always grumpy
because the patient is said to bring bad luck and troubled families, this
causes the patient to stress and can lead to stroke the second time the next attack. Usually when you attack the
second time it berkmungkinan more severe and can be fatal.
Tips 7:
Feed with vegetaraian diet and try to eat less red meat.
Doctors advise patients feed with
vegetables and white meat. Try to eat less red meat. Eat more fish as a source
of protein. Vegetarian diet can reduce cholesterol in the blood that can cause
heart stroke. Vegetables can also control high blood pressure. .At earlier stage
after stoke attack, the stroke patients should be given food that is
soft and easy to digest such as rice porridge, soup, water, fish or egg and so on.
Tips 8: Do blood screen at least
one a year.
Periodic blood screen tests need to
be conducted to determine in more detail the content of the blood, blood type,
and diseases will we be potential based
on the structure of blood, blood types and also the state of sugar in the
blood.
Tips 9: Proof your compassion
Stroke patients will assume his
partner had changed compassion against him, he has a physical defect causing
her husband would find another woman to get the affection of many other women.
This problem is common for stroke patients to think that her husband will be
taken by another woman. Such situation causes him to be left alone. This
negative thinking should be stop by keep caring and always beside her.
Tips 10: Plan your holiday - honeymoon
Plan your honeymoon style holiday at
least once a year is one measure that can enhance the atmosphere of love and
affection of husband and wife. For a wife who suffered a stroke, when the
husband took a vacation would cause noticed she still cherished by her husband.
This will bring the 'flash back' during the honeymoon after marriage first.
This exciting experience will be a catalyst for stroke patient rehabilitation
process minds.
Tips: 11 House
renovation accordingly
To keep the stroke patient safety,
equipment in the bathroom need to be modified to facilitate use by patients
with stroke. The bathroom floor should be installed to ensure that the rubber
mate the bathroom floor is always safe from spilled water shower gel, soap or
water. As for those who stroke if there are few parts of slippery floors as a
result of contact with water, soap or shower gel it can cause patients to slip
and fall (for stroke patients is difficult to balance the body when it
derailed, causing it to fall over). If the stroke patient falls it can cause a
variety of serious injuries that may occur to the spinal slip dish that allows
consequence paralyzed from the waist to toe. If this situation happen, it will
result in increased severe stroke patients and can be attacked by a second
stroke. Custom stroke two times to have an adverse effect greater
Tips 12 - Stress management
Either the husband or the wife who
had to care for their partner who had a stroke, she must undergo Stress
Management. This is important because of the increasing burden of
responsibility can lead us to experience stress. Prolonged stress if not
managed properly can result in us being attacked by various diseases such as
hypertension, depression, etc. Based on the various issues that arise in the
dictionary daily life, then we should have the power to run the physical and
mental stress. among the things that need to be emphasized is:
1.
Accept the fact that the hardship
and suffering incurred by spouses and jug root of the burden of responsibility
we bear is the test and tested of God for us. God chose us to receive a test is
because Allah Knowing that we were able
to face His test . We also need to
feelings set in our minds , that we has been selected by God to receive His
test. If we managed to deal with it will be given a great reward in the
hereafter. Trouble today is rewarding to occupy the heaven of God in the
afterlife
2.
Rest assured that the hardship faced
today, we are promised paradise with Allah is full of enjoyment. Thus we will
assume that any trouble would be follow by ultimate victory. Therefore we need
to be patient in the face of any challenge.
3.
All problems will be resolved shall
be based on our ability to tackle it. If we are not able to finish alone can
get other people advice.. Help can be obtained from the nearest family of
kin. intimates or of certain bodies. The
author's experience in dealing with stress is to read the Koran every day,
besides that we also need to understand and appreciate the content of the
verses were read, as far as possible try we practice the teachings that is
described in the Qur'an in our lives, hopefully we will get a guide in the
blessings of life in the world and also achieved success in the hereafter. Also
we need to pray more and celebrations and pray to God if you have any deadlock
in solving a problem. Hopefully there will be a solution.
Tips 13: Helping patient to be positif mindset
Peachieved wople with stroke who
have a positive mindset that healing can be ith the permission of Allah, and it
is also striving to restore the physical condition of paralysis. Positive
thoughts when patient have to heal, it will give a will to patients to perform
physical movements such as undergoing exercise, try to do the work normally
done by him before the attack by the stroke. When this situation exists in
patients illusion, the patient will be more confident to do
all activities that will strengthen weak muscles, when the healing happen little by little it will be continued
until recovery. Always tell
the patient that who was attacked
by time will be better. Hopefully with set mindset that says every
disease can be cured by God. Makes him not demoralized and will be the man God
persistent exams. If this situation can be constructed in stroke patients
themselves, making it increasingly eager to do adventure activities that can
help to faster the healing process.
Tips 14: Time Management
Caregivers of stroke patients also
need increase time management skills. This is important because when we take
care of stroke patients is a busy time for our 24-hour time period. If not
properly managed is likely to occur out of time to solve all needs are routine
for stroke patients every day. If it is not made a priority task in the order
of the Very Important, Important and Commonly
well as less important. If the conduct is made structure in order kepetingan n then we can solve all
the requirements within 24 hours.
Important of Time Management:
•
time can be used for beneficial
activities
•
activities can be carried out
efficiently and effectively (to avoid wasting time)
•
can achieve balance in their
use
•
time can be divided equally between
the activities of production (working time), recreational activities (leisure
time) , and time to relax.
Tips 15: Establish nature of patience in yourself:
Caregiver shall establish the nature
of the patient in order to enable him to face the trials and hardships in
maintaining the stroke patients. These properties are important for stroke
patients will usually take a long time and patient recovery rate is slow. The
nature of the patient is also necessary to enable caregivers to handle
stroke patients is so high each. psychiatric patients who are sensitive
and touchy, fast sulking, difficult nature nag patients is also a pressure to
the guards. Therefore it should memunai high patience in life guards ..
Tips 16:
Characteristics of holidays
Guard paralyzed patients should
train himself to be a man who is diligent in sundries in performing daily
tasks. This trait is important to enable it to perform activities help a sick
wife and also take care of the household, in addition to leave home to find tezeki
for family living. With a favorite pastime of eating it can do the work begins
early in the morning (before dawn) till late at night.
These tips are purely for guidance
only, efficiency is dependent on the individual how he can menadaptasi all
situations that stroke patients in rawatinya. If guards can affect the patient
emotionally so displays a positive attitude in the face of allegations of God
with the pain and distress experienced it is God's grace that is in the process
to settle the sins of past patients, the process to increase the degree of
patient and guardian should be able to fully subside ditepuhi and patience.
When patients and carers can receive all these allegations with the utmost
devotion, God willing, it can be passed without any hassle and groaning even
take a dozen years or decades. Insha Allah.
.
At early stage of been attack by
stroke, my wife quite some time become fits. Especially when she is lonely and thinking of her future that is
very dull and uncertain when she will be heal. To resolve this tragic situation,
I am seeking of alternative treatment because the medication what she was taken
just to heal for short time and not the truly solution in the long run.
I been told by some of my friends,
the best solution to heal a stroke patient is by listening to Quran. How could
listening to the verses of Allah affect the brain cells? What's the scientific
explanation to this phenomenon? Is there a hidden energy in the Holy Quran?
My wife is not fluent in reading
Quran at the first place. To resolve this, I bought a book of Quran with a Pen
Reader. This Quran was program in such when pointing out the pen to the verses
of Quran it will read the verses accordingly, the reciter of the verses can be
selected world famous reciter. The pen reader also can be program to slow the
speed of reciter.
My wife was with the Holy Quran all
the time; even while she is sleeping. I
used to leave the pen reader on with reciting the Holy Quran. As a matter of
fact, I had no idea at that time about the technique of learning during
sleep!!!
After a few months, I noticed great
changes inside her. She felt that each
one of her brain cells is vibrating and reacting with the voice of the Holy
Quran recitation she was listening to. She was memorizing the Holy Quran using
the technique of listening and repeating the chapter many times. Therefore, She
found that the verses of the Holy Quran were getting easily into her memory.
Twenty years ago my father told that listening to the Holy
Quran recitation reprogrammed the brain cells completely! But recently I was really surprised to read about the
experiments of the scientists in treating some of the incurable diseases using
the sound waves of music. Some of the researchers such as the American
scientist Annie Williams ,who is using the music therapy technique, has come out
with important results. Those results, however, was limited until now because
of the inability of the music to create the required effects on the cells.
Nevertheless, she asserts that she has come up with unbelievable results in
treating the Colon Cancer and the Brain Tumor and other diseases. She also
states that the sense of creativity has been increased in each one of the
patients who has listened to the recorded music.
Consequently , I'd like here to
mention to my dear readers the results of my wife whose recite and listening to the recitation of the Holy
Quran: She feel now that she have become
stronger than before, that the immunity of her body has increased ,and her character
has become better ,especially in dealing with people. The Holy Quran has also
awakened the sense of creativity inside her mind as the result of reading and
listening to the Holy Quran constantly .
I can say , my dear reader, that
constant listening to the Holy Quran increases the creativity in the human
being and this is what happened to my wife. I still remember that before
reading and memorizing the Holy Quran she was unable to read a single sentence
correctly , but now she is able to recite fluently .
So we can see that listening to the
Holy Quran does not only help in healing illnesses, but also contributes to
developing the human personality and the communication skills together with the
ability of creativity and coming up with new ideas. Therefore, you, dear
reader, can try this and definitely will get fantastic results.
In 1839, the scientist" Enrick
William Duve" discovered that exposing the brain to certain wave sounds
can affect it positively and negatively . When he exposed the ears to different
wave sound frequencies, he found that the brain reacts with those sound
vibrations. Then, scientists found that the brain cells are in a state of
vibration during its life time. Each cell vibrates in a certain system and is
affected by the other cells around it. So it can be noticed that any bad
incident can lead to a disorder in the vibration system of the brain.
Neural cell in the brain in a state
of constant vibration. This cell contains a complex program through which
billion cells around interact in an amazing coordination that exhibit the
greatness of God. Any disorder in this program leads to a deficiency in the
immunity system and causes diseases.
The mechanism of the cells in
processing information depends on vibrating and producing electric fields
through which a human being can talk, move, drive and interact with others.
Therefore, when negative actions such as the shocks , embarrassing situations
or problems that happens to a person during his/her life accumulate , they
cause a kind of mess in the brain cells. This mess is irksome and exhausting
for the brain because it does an extra unnecessary work.
Before the baby is born , his brain
cells begin vibrating rhythmically in a balanced way. But after its birth, each
action will influence the brain cells and the way they vibrate. So if some of
the brain cells are unprepared to tolerate high frequencies, this may cause a
disorder in the vibrating system which in turn leads to a lot of physical and
psychological diseases.
Nowadays, scientists state that each
form of behavior is a result of a certain vibration of the brain cells and they
asserts that exposing a human being to certain sound frequencies frequently
changes the way in which the brain cells vibrate (i.e. changes the frequency of
the cellular vibration).Consequently, there are frequencies that make the brain
cells vibrate positively and actively and there are others that hurt the brain
cells and my cause death. Therefore , the important question now is What are
the frequencies that can be suitable for the brain??
Scientists also discovered that the
DNA strap inside each cell vibrates in a certain way as well. This strap
contains the necessary information for life, so any changes resulted from an
accident ,a problem, a virus or a disease attacking the body could make it
vibrate less than the normal speed. And the best way to make this strap perform
well is reprogramming this strap using a certain wave sound. Thus , the strap
as the scientists assert, reacts with those waves and starts vibrating
vigorously. However, there are some waves that might damage this strap.
Recently, many therapists treat
people using wave sound vibration to cure some incurable diseases such as
Cancer and some other chronic diseases in which the traditional medicine has
failed . They also found this way useful in treating some psychological
diseases such as Schizophrenia, Anxiety, sleeping problems and some bad habits
such as smoking, drug addiction and etc.
What is the best medicine?
The best medicine to cure all
illnesses is the Holy Quran. This is a result of a long time experience in
treating people. Many cases that had incurable illnesses recovered after
exposing them to the recitation of Holy Quran. That is because of the ability of
Holy Quran in rebalancing the brain cells and increasing their capability in
performing well.
Each cell has a vibrating system
that Allah has created to do its job and those cells do not understand the
speech language but they deals with frequencies and vibrations like those in
the mobile phones which receive electromagnetic waves and in turn send other
waves. Therefore, we can say, metaphorically, that in each cell there is a very
complex mobile phone. And you can imagine thousand billions of cells in your
brain vibrating rhythmically in a way that no human being can understand ,
realize or imitate and if any cell was being in disorder , all the body would
be in a disorder. So Holy Quran is a blessing that urges us to thank Allah .
But do we really appreciate such a blessing?
According to the recent discoveries,
scientists say that any illness must make a change in reprogramming the cells
and each cell works according to a certain program from birth to death.
Therefore, any physical or psychological disorder causes a confusion in the
vibration system of the cell which makes a disorder in the cellular program. So
we need to restore and correct this program in order to heal this disorder.
During my meditation with the Holy
Quran , I found that there is a very precise digital system in each verse.
Those verses, however, do not only carry the language of numbers but also carry
some thing like what we call "data" or "programs" that can
deal with the cells. Therefore, we can say that those verses carry the language
of those cells.
The reader may think this
unscientific theory, but I assure you that I found a lot of verses in the Quran
confirming that the Holy Quran verses carry a lot of data exactly like those
normal radio waves used in carrying information, music, sounds and so on.
Allah says in His Holy book
" Had it
been possible for a Lecture to cause the mountains to move , or the earth to be
torn asunder , or the dead to speak , this Quran would have done so . Nay , but
Allah ' s is the whole command .(Ra'd:13:31)
If we deeply analyze this verse we,
we can come up with this question: How can the Holy Quran cause the mountain to
move, or the earth to be torn or the dead to speak?. The answer is through the
data that only dead people can understand.
As the mountains are concerned, it
is known that the earth layers move slowly nearly few centimeter a year,
driving the mountains to move, too. This movement is resulted from thermal waves
produced from the melting area under the crust. Therefore, we can say that the
Quran contains data that can deal with these thermal waves causing layers to
stir and move faster that makes cracks and earthquakes; and cuts the crust into
many small pieces. This great power is put in the Holy Quran, but we are not
allowed to reach it . Instead ,we have been told about this great power to
realize how great is this Holy Book. Now, Can this Holy Book which has this
advantage of this great power heal weak creatures like human beings?.
When Allah tells us that this Holy
Quran is a" healing", this means that it carries data and programs
sufficient to heal the damaged cells in the body and cures what the doctors was
incapable of.
The easiest medicine for all illnesses and diseases
Dear reader! I can say confidently
according to my experience that from a simple change in your life you can get
unexpected big results that may change your life completely as it happened to
me before you. What you have to do
is to listen to the recitation of the Holy Quran as much as you can all the
time: in the morning, in the afternoon , at night, while you are asleep, when
you awake up and before you sleep. What you need to listen to the Holy Quran is
to have a media such as a Lap Top, a tape recorder, a small iPod or mp3 with
headphones, a TV, a radio or any other device.
The Holy Quran recitation sound has
wave sounds that have a certain frequency and a certain wave length. These
waves spread wave fields that affect the brain positively and restore its
balance. This grants the body a strong immunity to resist illnesses or diseases
such as Cancer . Cancer is a disorder in the performance of the cells, so
listening to the Holy Quran reprograms the cells as a computer which was full
of viruses and was "reformatted" and downloaded with new programs in
order to perform effectively. This is what man-made programs do for computers.
What about the programs which are carried in the words of Allah, the creator of
all human beings.
The amazing effect resulting from Listening to Quran
The continuous listening to the recitation of
Holy Quran gives you the following real fruitful results:
-
increase the immunity of the body
-
enhance the creativity sense
-
improve the concentration ability
-
heal the chronic and incurable
illnesses
-
change the behavior and enable
people to communicate
-
better and gain trust
-
create inner peace and heal the
neural tensions
-
heal nervousness, irritation and
precipitation
-
improve the ability of taking right
decisions
-
decrease fear and hesitation
-
improve and strengthen the
personality
-
heal the normal illnesses such as
allergy, headache, flu ,etc.
-
improve the speech ability
-
protect from diseases such as cancer
and so on
-
Change some bad habits such as
excessive eating and smoking
Dear reader! those things I
mentioned above are the results I myself got: I remember I was attacked by
acute panic disorder but after the continuous listening to the Holy Quran the
panic was gone without any effort. I was
really surprised "how my life changed and why? But after I read about the
recent tech
nique in healing, one of which was
the therapy by sounds and sound frequencies, I knew the secret of this great
change in my life. It was listening to the recitation of the Holy Quran. What I
simply did was only listening to the Holy Quran continuously.
To conclude, I 'd like to tell you a
fact that I encountered and really tried: howsoever you spend your time in
reading or listening to the Holy Quran, you will find that this time will not
be wasted nor decreased . But you will notice that you will always have an
extra time. You will find that the same works that takes sometimes days or
hours to be done can be finished in few minutes only!
"O mankind! There has come unto you an exhortation from
your Lord , a healing for that which is in the breasts ,and a guidance and a
mercy for believers . Say : In the bounty of Allah and in His mercy : therein
let them rejoice . It is better than what they hoard . (Jonah:10:57,58)"
Beside reciting the Quran, my wife
did the prayer at mid night, it seen a lot of improment of her attitude and
mind setting. She was able to recover her brain healing and most likely to be
as normal person,.
Benefits of solat for the Muslim
society @ The Ummah:
- Solat is the best platform for a Muslim, male and female to bring oneself closer to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
- Solat cleanses one's sins.
- Solat removes one's faults and improves one's decorum or akhlak.
- Solat removes ill will and envy from one's heart and mind.
- Solat is the best way to increase one's stature in life and amongst the Ummah.
- Muslims who pray and perform their solat diligently will be showered with Allah's Mercy as long as he or she maintains solat.
- If a Muslim is thrown into the Hellfire , the scorching flames will not touch the areas of one's physique which touches the ground when in prostration ( parts of one's body that comes into contact with the earth or ground upon the act of sujud.
- Solat carried out with full knowledge and understanding plus focus will enable one to sujud to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala on Yaum al Qiyamah.
- Solat increases one's internal energy and tranquilizes one's soul.
- Solat feeds one's heart and soul with the Rahmah and Sakinah of Allah Azza Wa Jalla.
- Solat is the doorway to one's receiving of Allah's Baraqah and Sustenance @ Razq.
- Solat is the Noor @ Light that brightne's up a Mukmin's Ruuh in the Duniya and Akhirat.
- Solat cures many diseases of the mind and heart @ psychological aspects-a praying soul attains a heightened sense of peace and tranquility- a balanced individual, capable of handling whatever trials and tribulations that props up in one's life.
- Allah Azza Wa Jalla commands His servants to seek His Help both in the worldly needs and those of the Akhirat @ Hereafter by carrying out the Solat, which is made up of prayers @ do'a.
- Those who perform their solat in the jamaah @ congregation can feel and experience the peace and protection of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. The power of association is what my Shaikh used to remind us. Strength through unity and oneness of purpose, which is to seek Allah's Blessings.
- Solat enables one to be in constant prayer and devotion towards Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
- Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala doubles the rewards and blessings of those who are in Solat.
- Those who take care and fulfill their Solat will be those whose amals and ibadat are accepted by Allah Ar Rahman Ar Raheem.
- By taking care of one's Solat, a Muslim is prevented from being amongst the Munafiks.
- By being amongst those who take care of the solat, a Muslim will be safe from being resurrected with the likes of the Fir'aun, Qarun, Hamman and Ubay bin Khalaf on the Yaum al Qiyamat!
- Solat beings peace of mind.
- Solat enlightens one's heart and brightens up one's face and refreshes one's spirit.
- Solat prevents one from committing vile acts and abhorrable conduct.
- Solat prevents one from being cruel and oppressive.
- Solat prevents one from losing control of one's nafs @ lust.
- Solat ensures prolonged bliss and acts a barrier towards misfortune!
- Solat brings forth blessings and removes worries or tribulations of the heart.
- Solat heals mental and psychological conditions and controls one's sexual lusts and associated sins.
- Solat is the motivating factor that helps one to do good for society by bringing one into contact with likeminded individuals, united in faith and goodwill and acts as a cementing glue that binds the hearts and minds of the Mukmins into enjoining the good and forbidding the munkar.
- Solat when carried out in a jamaah @ congregation is an excellent platform for social mingling and interaction amongst the society @ ummah.
- Solat Jamaah when carried out correctly is enlightening and brings one into contact with the learned ones in the masjid and opens up the doors of learning for all when the 'Majlis Ilmu' is carried out by the scholars and imam of the masjid. Learning opportunities for those who seek the truth and knowledge of Islam.
- Solat cleanses the hearts of the Muslims and prevents one from being a hypocrite @ munafik.
- Solat opens up the hearts and minds of the Muslims to love one another for the sake of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala for the strength of the Ummah comes from the gathering of those who are united in devotion towards Allah Ar Rahman Ar Raheem.
- Solat puts to practice the principles of Islam and is the bedrock of a Muslim's Iman and Amal in Islam.
- Solat which is carried out according to the exact Sunnah of the Blessed Messenger Muhammad Sallalahu Alaihi Wassalam will bring forth many blessings and benefits to the praying soul that will enable a Muslim to pass through the afflictions of this Duniya and the Trials of the Akhirat with the ease of those who are blessed by the Almighty and attain a state of calmness that manifests the stature of the Believers before Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. The one who prays constantly to Allah is full of bliss and calmness derived from the realization that one has fulfilled one's obligations towards one's Creator in this world and shall be rewarded accordingly in the Hereafter?
- Solat will remove hardships and make one able to face the trials and tribulations of one's daily life's. Those who succeed in reaching a certain level of correctness in their Solat will attain a level of competency in their life and be able to handle whatever trials that come up in their life?
- Solat removes sins, raises one's stature, increases the goodness in one's self and brings one closer to Allah, the Master and Overlord of all that we see or comprehend?
- Solat brings forth the gentle being in us, calms our hearts, brightens our outlook and nurtures our soul with the power of prayer.
- Solat has an effect on those who perform it by turning those who perform their Solat as trustworthy persons, be generous and kind towards others, calm and collected even when problems crop up and prevents one from ending up in the dregs of society.
- Solat is the food for the soul that never ends and spiritual fodder for the Believer.
- One who keeps his or her Solat to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will find that his or her life will always be blessed and protected with the Blessings and Peace of Allah, our Most Gracious, Most Compassionate Creator.
- One who keeps firm to his or her Solat will find Allah's Help to be with him or her when major tests and fitnah that comes their way dissipate into nothingness as a result of their keeping to their part of the bai'ah that they keep with Ar Rahman in every prayer when they recite the Do'a Iftitah:
- "Allahu Akbaru kabiraw
- Walhamdu lillahi kathiraw
- Wasubhanallahhi bukratau waasila.
- Wajjahtu wajhia lillazi fataras sama wati wal ardha
- Hanifam muslimaw wama ana minal musyrikin.
- Inna solati wanusuki wamahyaya wammamati lillahi rabbil'alamin.
- La syarikalahu wabiza lika umirtu wa ana minal muslimin."
Meaning :
- "Allah the Almighty, the Greatest of them all;
- All praises be upon Him;
- Allah The Most Exalted of them all, all day and all night;
- I stand before The One Who created the skies and the lands;
- I am ready to leave my fate in Allah's Hands;
- And I am certainly not among those who associate Allah with other beings;
- Indeed my Solat, my good deeds, my life and my death; I leave it all in the Hands of Allah; who administers the whole universe.
- He has no rival nor parallel whatsoever; and I have been ordered as such; and I am from those who embrace Islam!"
References:
1- Al Quran
2- Brain cells tune in to music, www.nature.com
3- Neural oscillations,www.en.wikipedia.org
4- Brain wave therapy, Brain Sync Corporation, 2006.
5- Vibration, www.wordpress.com
6- Mike Adams, Vibrational Medicine, NewsTarget Network, July 14,
2004.
7- Simon Heather, The Healing Power of Sound.
8- Virginia Essene, You are Becoming a Galactic Being.
9- Revolutionary nanotechnology illuminates brain cells at work,
Wallahualam,
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