How to put trust back to whom betrayed you.

How to put trust back to whom betrayed you.

The experience of being cheated or betrayed  by the people whose we trust is a very bitter experience in the life of husband and wife, it will be memories that are stuck in the subconscious for life harshly. Moreover, if a given belief that it is the most dear husband or wife. Once hurt the heart even wound has healed but the scar remains visible and lasting forever.

Islam is deeply concerned about the sincerity and honesty between spouses. Honesty because this will foster an intimate and harmonious in the nursing home. For the husband is the one responsible for taking care of all wife secret and vice versa. For people who do not trust the trust placed in it was considered an act of sin and hate by God.

Even so, Allah will reward the invaluable reward in this world if someone is able to forgive and give forgiveness  to people whose betrayed him in in the past. It really  difficult to be carried out by someone who had been betrayed. This situation occurs because humans have already become common place  self ego , and this is more difficult to give forgiveness when the whispers of Satan given the already strong measures of human to betray to oppose one another.

To put back the trust to people who have betrayed? a difficult question given the right answer.

Can we tear down the walls of ego and self-esteem to believe again?

What is more painful than being betrayed?

The pain only God knows. it's feel torn apart inside.

Sometimes we do not know why we suddenly betrayed, without any storms and hurricanes, blink of an eye pierced our hearts like profuse cruelly. After that, he came to apologize and want to restore the situation to normal ...... but is as simple as that?

As easy, to say sorry?

Learning to trust again after being betrayed

I know it's hard for us to believe again. Can trust back to husbands who cheat? Can trust back to a wife who could duplicate husband?

Can you believe it to friends who tarnish us from behind?

Possible ways we give back to him the hopes and conscience?

Yes, learn to believe back again after being betrayed is one of the most difficult aspects of being accepted by ordinary people like us.

It seems we are facing an enemy combatant who has surrendered, wounded, and walks with a limp toward us, raising his hand, asking for a shot stopped.

How are we then?

Can we afford to give him the opportunity after he killed his relatives, our friends and family? It seems quite impossible not?

However, confidence   is necessary for forgiveness and healing process. It is necessary to allow us to move on.

Sometimes we need to give a second chance to re-connect to someone and strengthen their ties with us, though it was not easy for us.

The reason is for us. So we are free from encumbrances.

1. Give yourself time to calm

Learn to love ourselves checking with. Give yourself time to calm and relieve the feeling after we go through the painstaking care phase. Not everyone is able to recover quickly return.

It is a process that takes time and requires a lot of effort to put the events of the past. We will many times falling, tears and depressed, before the right to release the sadness that nested hearts.

With a strong self-remembrance and prayer. Save Al-Quran as a companion. Give us room to enjoy the atmosphere, contemplate the beauty of God's creation and, spend time with friends and family.

Do not just spend time alone to think about the last incident, we have to do is think about the life ahead.

Allah, we will quickly recover and be able to let go of the feeling of dismay and   sadness that nested hearts.

2. Stop looking for answers

We may never know why someone is betraying us but to move on we must realize that all that happens has nothing to do with us, not because of our shortcomings.

People make decisions based on what they think and what they feel. This is a matter that we can not control or term, and not also something you can plan.

Therefore the best way to forget the pain of the past is the future, open your hearts to the future that is waiting.

3. The future is different from the past

Our past will not be the same as the history that has passed. Although we have been hurt and betrayed in the past, we will not necessarily hurt again in the future.

However, if people are trying to gain confidence in us is the type of person who likes to lie and quibble over and over again, we'd better start living with someone else. As it probably always will be a burden to our lives.

It is like a stone in the bag we carry along our journey, we continue to quote and cite again more stones. It must be tough not?

But what if someone came and helped us clear the rocks from our bags, we will definitely lose weight and be able to go right?

The same goes for life, sometimes we need help from others to create a new life. Because half of life is always wasted time by two things, if not unfortunate to have a job, we are mistaken in choosing the person to be believed.

4. Experience life as a lesson

We have learned a lot of the meaning of life when we are facing a painful situation.

We have now become a smarter and much stronger than we were before.

This means we have a lot of experience and knowledge to be used in building a new relationship, and In sya Allah we will be friends or partner better.

5.  Be open and frank

After giving a chance to people who have betrayed you, do not be afraid to be open and honest about what you feel. Tell him what your hopes on him.

It will make the person understand your feelings and at the same time serve as a warning to him so that it will no longer try betrays you or breaks your heart.

If you think the friendship was re heading in the right, continue to spend time with your friends as normally as possible. Sooner or later, you will be meeting Allah back to him like an old school.

Maybe with some other friends, which you probably never very close to her, sometimes you feel like you are no longer able to trust him completely. But you do not have any problem with him, then he has changed the status of a dear friend to a common friend.

That is not why, it is normal. Relationships do change sometimes.

Conclusion;

Give forgiveness even harder. Learning to trust again

In fact this is the first thing we have to do once, give forgiveness.

Although it is difficult, even as the unwilling.

Because with only forgiveness can open our hearts to look to the future, it is important in the healing process. This is where we always mistaken because we always assume it is the same forgiveness with forgetting process, whereas humans will never forget.

Forgiveness means we release the pain that we have responsibilities. Forgiveness will enlarge our souls.

Therefore arrange steps to release grudges and enjoy roughing. Learning to trust again is hard, but it does not mean we can not do it.

Only people who have a big heart to give a second chance to someone else.

Allah, if you can do it, you will feel a sense of happiness that I had never felt.

So what is thought of by you today? Happy talk, but that will do is hard, right? So how ?.