WARNING TO HUSBAND WHO LIKE TO BULLY HIS WIFE

WARNING TO HUSBAND WHO LIKE TO BULLY HIS WIFE CRUELLY

The husband as head of the family should take care and responsibility to his wife and family. This is the common  intention and feeling of all the husband when he has the tittle after officially married. However in reality not all the husband take concern about his responsibility and a few of them did the cruelly treat to them.

Islam impose the law how husband should take care and his obligation to secure his wife and family. The husband as the leader and the example leader to the family and he is obligate to provide food, shelter, clothes, and transport to their family usage in daily life. The husband also has to ensure his wife  and his kids will be teach to understand the faith and other related knowledge of worships to Allah to  ensure their live is performed accordingly the faith of Islam. If he not capable to do so, he have to send his family to the guru who able to do so.

“Husband should not treat his wife and kids brutally if they have done any misconduct again of Islamic teach or faith. . The husband should take a proper action and with a reasonable approach to advise and coaching them. As Allah said in the Koran : 

“ And the mother should suckle their children for two whole years for him who desires to make complete the time suckling. And their maintenance and their clothing must be – borne by the father according to usages ; no soul shall have imposed upon it a duty but to the extent of its capacity; neither  shall  mother be made to his child, no father on account of his child. And a similar duty……..” ( Al Baqarah 233).

God said,   "Let the mother and the Ability to Provide maintenance * According to their ability, and  The collapsible good fortune  let him spend out of that which Allah has given him."  (Ath-Divorces: 7). 

The Prophet saw hearts hadith narrated by Jabir bin Abdullah Yang Posted Muslim, Hadith he alluded to the women by saying,

"Will you give him to eat when you eat, when you give him clothes to dress, do not hit and do not face said …..."   (HR. Ahmad, Abu Dawud, an-Nasa'i And Ibn Majah, al Posted confirm by -Hakim And Ibn Hibbaan). 

Abu Hurayrah may Allah be pleased with him, he said: “The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him: dinars spent in the way of Allah, and the dinar spent in the neck, and give in charity dinars by the poor, and dinars spend on your family, the greatest reward that spend on your family." 

From Abu Hurayrah said: The Messenger of Allah said,   "One thing you spent dinar ($) in the way of Allah, The dinar which you infak (spent) ( to review the freeing of slaves, one dinar which you spent To  Poor And The dinar which you spent to the family, which paled in Reward It's great that you spent to the family.  "(Narrated by Muslim).  

Utbah wife of Abu Sufyan came to the Prophet, she said, "O Messenger of Allah, Abu Sufyan's husband stingy, he did not give me  and my children  daily  maintenance  sufficiently except what I take from his wealth without his knowledge, if I sinned therefore? ". The prophet said "Take from his property what is right and what is sufficient for your children."  (Agreed upon). 

If the husband tangled trouble until he is able to provide alimony to the wife and she was not happy with the condition, the wife is entitled to the right to ask for termination of  marriage “ fasakh” With reason trouble did by her husband  . She can get the permission from the Islamic Court. 

Violence fizikal :

including brutality to wife is doing follow-catch physical form of beatings regardless signs yang posted laid shari'a, only because small problems sometimes wife should or accept punch kick from husband. Husband obviously once an act of persecution to wife, plus again usually the husband yang beat not pay attention member body wife so happens is a husband beat members the unlawful for a review was beaten. 

The Word of God,   "Women That ye fear rebellion, admonish them and separate they, in their beds and beat them   "(An-Nisa ': 34).  

This verse indeed confer husband are allow to beat his wife, but not just apply the hit, there is limits provision,  first, if the wife done something against the provision of Islamic law, she does not obey the husband instruction dan directive or “ nushuz” , namely lawless with not obey to  husband hearts limits the permissible, for the first miss conduct or unlawful doing by wife, husband should play his role to advise accordingly and also coach or lead her to be a good wife. If after second attend of advisory and consul by the husband , the wife still repeated to do her misconduct to husband, so the second step that must be passed that is split her in beds. After left in separate beds, the wife realize her mistake and misconduct, and she bag for forgiveness from the husband, and the husband confirmed that the wife back to normal position as a women of good faith and back to practice the Islamic law and tough.  She should be given a chances to re correct and back to practiced as a good Muslim women. She should be given time by the husband to come back as the obedience women.

And is not worth doing the last step in. if stages initial conducted with neither undoubtedly will not beatings occurred, if the husband beats her taxable income the run stages with neither then hearts spouse is a woman's condition stupid. so who has prayer? goat what not impervious rebuked with mouth indeed wonder rebuked with sticks. 

although hit allowed but it is a way the ultimate should preceded posted some way good and soft, writer sure if ways husband run with neither undoubtedly will not there catch hearts of his wife, and islam is not the scapegoating as trigger catch hearts households only because his allowed to hit. 

Look exemplary Prophet, Aisha said, "saw the messenger not even hit something with his hands, not woman, not too helper except hearts circumstances jihad in the path of Allah. "(hr. muslim). 

In addition limitation hit also it must be noted, since the objective is to educate not hurt then hit that allowed is hitting that will not injure and not break, not injure the flesh and not break bones, plus no hit members the forbidden eg face as hearts”. hadith hakim bin Muawiyah in differences.

The men must have knowledge and a deep knowledge of Limitations husband be allowed to review a law wife hit with the terms of the very motions.  If the husband mistakenly take action excessively hitting wife (did not match error), then he Keep in mind And take risk  that in the next will come later in the law of God Posted extremely painful doom.

Another words, the husband has  a responsibility to take care, shelter and provided enough fund to them so their family will have batter living in the world and the hereafter.

Wallahu'alam.