THE RESPONSIBILITY OF HUSBAND AND WIFE

THE RESPONSIBILITY OF HUSBAND AND WIFE

Marriage is God's gift to his people, the instinct for living together between men and women is the nature of God's grace. For that God was  lay dawn  rules of marriage for Muslims.

Marriage means a valid marriage between men and women with certain conditions such as the future husband, future wife, guardian, 2 witnesses, and “qabul” consent. This marriage must be based on religious claims rather than by lust that always deceive and destroy people. 

Weddings are performed because of religion or tradition of the Prophet Muhammad will obtain the blessings of God, because it makes religion as a guide in the search for a partner It is regarded as one of worship.

Hadith:

" The woman is married for four reasons: for her wealth; because his seed; her beauty; because of his religion. Pick yourselves, ye women who are happy ". (Bukhari and Muslim) 

When the newlyweds have gabul hijab, then fell to her responsibilities as a husband and wife. This is a mandate from God to be husband and wife can live together roar their family boat  as demanded by Islam.

Among the responsibilities of the husband and wife are:

Responsibility Husband Over Wife husband is obliged to provide maintenance to his wife like food, drink, clothing and shelter in a good way.

As the Prophet says:

" You (the husband) had to feed him if you give him food and clothing if you dress. Do not slap his face, do not be insulted, and do not leave it except in the house. " (Reported by Ahmad, Abu Dawud, Ibn Hibban)

The husband is obliged to fulfill the sexual needs of his wife, even if only once in the past four months, if circumstances do not permit. These conditions are set based on the Word of God, which means:

 " To those who want to swear to distance himself from his wives, for them there is a time delay for up to four months. Then if they go back to his wife, then surely Allah is Forgiving, Merciful. "(Al-Baqarah: 226)

Minimum sleep with his wife once every four days. At the time of Umar ibn al-Khattab assessments of this kind ever done. Umar assessment is taken from the word of God that says: "Marry women who you love two, three, or four." (An-Nisa: 3)

 Do justice in the division if he has more wives than one. Hadith that says: " Anyone who has two wives, then he is more inclined to one of them, then that person on the Day of Judgment will be hobbled by a person as a fall or staggering." (Reported by at-Tirmidhi) 

If his wife, a girl (virgin) then the husband should stay with her for seven days from the beginning of her marriage and three days (from the date of marriage) if his wife a widow. This is taken from the Hadith of the Prophet says:

 " For a girl of seven days, while for the widow three days, and then he returned to his old one." (Muslim) 

The  husband should gave permission to his wife if she want to see her sick brother or visit their family if there was a death. 

Responsibility Wife Over Husband Wife obliged to obey her husband in terms of good, not in disobedience to God. However, a husband should not be burdensome or troublesome wife. Such provisions are taken from the Word of God, which means:

 " If you obey the wives of you then you do not seek a way against them." (An-Nisa: 34) 

A wife is required to protect the wealth and the secret of her husband. It also can not leave the house except with the permission of her husband. This provision is taken from the Hadith of the Prophet says: 

"(The best of women is) happy if she looked at her husband, who always obey her husband if she commanded it, and that is not immoral to her husband for herself and her fortune with her ​​husband, an abomination" (Reported by An-Nasa'i)

Traveling with her husband if invited. Because, traveling with her husband is the husband who must be obeyed by his wife. The wife must serve her husband if he wanted to be with him. This is because, to serve the sexual needs of husband and wife is a duty and a right for a husband. In a hadith which means: 

" If a husband asks his wife to sleep together, then pushed his wife to her husband's anger, the angels will curse him until morning." (Agreed alaih)

 A wife should ask her husband's permission if he wants to do fasting. It is based on the words of the Prophet: 

"It is not lawful for the wife to do fast when her husband saw it, except by permission." (Agreed alaih)

Brief Description of What described above are just some of the rights and responsibilities between spouses in domestic life. If the husband does not fulfill the rights of his wife, the husband has made a mistake. Similarly, if a wife does not fulfill the rights of her husband she was doing ‘nusyuz’ (disobedience) . On behalf of his wife ignored, can claim rights to her husband that their rights are not yet fulfilled by her husband. If this is not met by the husband also even given advice and warning, then she may report the matter to the state Islamic Religious Department at the Islamic Family and Development Division for advice and further action to the husband. The memory of her husband at the time after the marriage before you've uttered ‘taklik’ that if you ignore the responsibilities as a husband for 4 months Hijri intentionally or coercion, then complain to the spouse of any Judge of the Syariah or Islamic Religious Department and convicted, then it fell to divorce a wife.

Wives neglected by her husband should not be afraid to act because it is the right of all of you, your actions innocent and is not named as a disobedient wife. Obey her husband only on things that do not violate the provisions of the messenger of God or religion, any matter that violates God's messengers not required for you to worry as doing sin.

Thus the husband as head of his wife and his family shall discharge the responsibilities put to him by God after he was marriage as been  agreed in the "contract" at the wedding. Remember that failure to discharge the responsibilities entrusted to it will be questioned by Allah in the Hereafter. A painful doom will be for a husband who deliberately shirks in hereafter.

So as so wives should always obey her husband every time as long as his direction does not conflict with the law. More important cooperation between husband and wife in the face of the ups and downs of married life Lets be blessed with happiness in the world and get the grace of God in the hereafter.

Wallahualam.