WARNING TO HUSBAND WHOSE CRUELTY TREAT HIS WIFE

WARNING TO HUSBAND WHOSE CRUELTY TREAT HIS WIFE

Husband and wife were persecuted or that in an appropriate place in the dictionary of married life. Have become commonplace in family life is to live a happy life between husband and wife who have been legally married  and promise to live happily and peacefully till the end of their life. But in rowing household boat  in the days, it would have been hit by waves that sometimes happening  quarrels between husband and wife.

In certain cases there is a husband who is empowered as the head of the household has abused his power by torturing his wife cruelty at first wife may not be intentional to made her  husband was angry and the reason for torturing his wife. Is this a fair practice?

O remember that husband has a big responsibility that ordinance   by God.    

     

 THE CRUELTY OF HUSBAND TO WIFE :

Maintenance:

Islam stipulates that a living is a right and an obligation of the husband and wife perfected, even though the wife of wealthy and able to feed herself, this still does not drop her right to alimony from her husband. Alimony obligations that must be borne by the husband were established by evidence of al-Qur'an and Sunnah, among which are: the Word of God,  "is for the father to feed and clothe their wives with kindness."  (Al- Baqarah: 233). The Word of God,  "Let the man of means spend according to his means, and He whose let him income and spend from what Allah has given him." (Ath-Divorces: 7). The Prophet said in a hadith of Jabir bin Abdullah narrated by Muslim, Hadith Hajj, he alluded to the women by saying,

"And for those of you good luck and clothing with kindness." From Hakim bin Muawiyah of his father said, I said, "O Messenger of Allah, what is the wife of one of us in it?" He replied, 

"Will you give him to eat when you eat, when you give him clothes to dress, do not hit the face and do not say to him, 'May God memperburukmu'."  (HR. Ahmad, Abu Dawud, an-Nasa'i and Ibn Majah, classed as saheeh by al -Hakim and Ibn Hibbaan). 

Property best spent by someone is a treasure that he spent to his family, donations to the family-topped donation  in other fields. 

Abu Hurayrah may Allah be pleased with him, he said: The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him:  “dinars spent in the way of Allah, and the dinar spent in the neck, and give in charity dinars by the poor, and dinars spend on your family, the greatest reward that spend on your family”. 

From Abu Hurairah said that the Messenger of Allah said,  "A dinar that you spent in the way of Allah, the dinar which you spent for freeing slaves, the dinar which you spent to the poor and a dinar that you sppent to your family, the greatest reward is that you spent to your family. " (Narrated by Muslim). 

Right living for the family is emphasized in Islam, a person will bear a burden is not light if he should abandon the expenses.

From Abdullah bin 'Amr bin al-As said, the prophet said,  "Suffice it to bear a great sin when he squandered a living person he was supposed to."  (HR. Abu Dawud, validated by an-Nawawi in al-Riyadh Shalihin no . 6/294). 

Narrated by Muslim interpretation, the Prophet said,  "Suffice it to bear a great sin if he is arrested he must maintain a living person."

When maintenance is not provided solely by the husband to the wife until wife and her  children in sufficient budget  The wife then allowed to take as much of her husband's property-sufficient in kindness without her husband's knowledge. 

From this she said, Utbah WIFE Abu Sufyan came to the Prophet, he said, "O Messenger of Allah, Abu Sufyan is a miserly husband , he did not give maintenance sufficiently to me and my children except what I take from his wealth without his knowledge, am I guilty of that? "The Prophet said, 

“Take from his property what is right what is sufficient for you and your children."  (Agreed upon). 

If the husband tangled trouble so he was not able to give maintenance to his wife and she was not pleased with the situation,  The wife serves the right to propose marriage to revoke by reason of the difficulty in giving a living husband, dala dictionary jurists known as  al-Faskhu I'sar bills . 

From Said ibn al-Musayyib about a man who does not have what he spend on his wife, he said, "Both are inseparable." Narrated by Said bin Mansur. And of Sufyan ath-Tsauri and Abu Zanad him say, I said to Said, "Sunnah?" He replied, "Sunnah." Ibn Hajar said in  al-Maram Bulugh , "This is a powerful and unjust." 

Physical violence:

Includes wife is doing injustice to physical violence such as hitting, regardless of the limits laid down by law, just as a small issue sometimes wife have to take a hit or kick the husband. This is obviously an act of injustice to the wife, plus it is the husband who beats not look wife limb so that there is illegal husband beat members of the beatings. 

The word of God,  "the women from whom you fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them in their beds and beat them. "  (An-Nisa ': 34). 

This paragraph allows the husband beat his wife, but did not hit faces, this paragraph puts limits and conditions. First, it is done when his wife nusyuz, the rebels with no husband ,  within the limits allowed, this means if wife unproven nusyuz the husband can not do, having proved wife nusyuz it is not automatically boeh keep hitting her husband, the husband first should do the previous two stages, namely advising it, if WIFE is a pious Muslim and he proved nusyuz it is sufficient for her advice, he would have realized his mistake and return to the right path. Thus the question is settled without violence. Even if the advice is not enough then there is still the second step that must be passed, which separated from him in bed. In this stage if indeed WIFE Muslim who proved he nusyuz soleihah and then he will realize, therefore husband will not have to perform the last step. If these stages are implemented with good will, there will be no strike, if the husband beats her run after these stages well then in this case WIFE is stupid woman. So who is wrong? Goats are not effective rebuked by mouth with a stick rebuked deserved. 

Despite hitting allowed but it is the last resort to be preceded by some kind and gentle way, I am sure that if these measures are carried out properly it will not be accepted domestic violence stairs, and Islam does not scapegoating as a trigger for domestic violence only because it lets hit. 

Look at the example of the Prophet Muhammad, Aisha said, "The Prophet did not even hit something with his hands, not women, nor helper except in cases of jihad in Cause of Allah. "(Narrated by Muslim).. 

In addition to limitations must also be observed hitting, because the goal is to educate not allowed to hurt the hit is a hit does not hurt and did not break, do not hurt the flash and not break a bone, plus not hit members which banned on the face such as the hadith above Hakim bin Muawiyah.

So the husband should have a deep knowledge about the limits allowed by law, husband to beat his wife with the terms of the very motions. if the husband mistakenly take action excessively hitting wife (not commensurate with the offense), then he should remember and take risk  that in the hereafter will be punished by God with a painful doom. Wives can also make a complaint to the kadhi or to the police for having committed an abuse of husbands against wives.

Wallahu'alam.