Honor all women, not just your wife.

24. Honor all women, not just your wife.

Men are required by Islam to protect women, prevent violence. In the institution of marriage, the man is the head of the family unstable state is more handsome and several other advantages over women. Male responsibility as chairman (leader) of the women affirmed by God through His Word says:

"Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has preferred some of them (men) than the other (female), and because men spend their part of the property after them." (Surah an-Nisa, verse 34).

Islam stipulates man should always be protective and kind to women. As leaders, men accounted for the safety, welfare and provide the necessities of life for his wife and children. Islam prohibits domestic violence. With the words of the Prophet warned meaning:

. "Why is there a man among you who like to beat his wife like hitting a slave, but he will fuck his wife the other day ." (Narrated by Ahmad). .

The wife has the right to get the best possible service. At one point, many came to see the wife of the Prophet's wife complained about ill-treatment received from their husbands. When Prophet knows it, whereupon he said, meaning:

"Indeed, many women came to see my wife complained about their husbands. Indeed, the husband of the woman was not the best person from among you." (Narrated by Abu Dawood).

Allah gives an example of how to be a good husband. The Prophet often helped his wife to work at home that he can make himself like sewing torn  clothes, cooking, cleaning and other work sites. The "soft bones" husband and wife do homework help is not simply lighten the work of his wife, but dignified wife. The wife feels that he is loved and respected.

Practice doing homework together can form a cooperation, understanding, joy and appreciate what is being done together. Husband who both cleaning the house certainly will not do anything that causes the condition to become dirty. However, many husbands who deliberately dirty house with dust and cigarette butts thrown everywhere and then told his wife to clean.

Doing good wife is a sign of true Muslim part. Good husband realized that he bore a great trust in the matter of safeguarding the interests of his wife. The Prophet Muhammad said:

"A good man among you is the greatest good towards his wife, and I am the best of wives from among yourselves." (Narrated by at-Tirmidhi)                                               .

Good attitude is not limited to the wives. Everyone has the right to be treated well, especially family members and those who are

entrusted to our keeping. Employees' salaries and those who stay with us to be treated as well as possible. Good attitude toward the wife of the Prophet Muhammad was recognized by his wife, Aisha. Narrated by Bukhari that she once said:

"The Prophet never once beat his wife and aides." Take care and kindness towards his wife also done by providing what the husband was able to himself, then that is also supposed to be his wife. It is the right of a capable wife gets grant provided by her husband.

 The Prophet Muhammad said:

"The responsibility of a husband against his wife is when you eat, you must give food to your wife. When you wear clothes, you give clothes for your wife. Do not beat your wife in the face. Do not remove the bad words in front of the words that offend and doghouse. Do not leave your wife alone except in the house. " (Narrated by Abu Dawood)

Islam urges the husband to deal with his wife and chit-chat with good manners, given reasonable consideration of women were considered less than men. God promised in the Quran: 

 
"Treat them kindly." (An-Nisa ': paragraph 19)
 

It includes the fine words, give maintenance to taste, meet with the wife in household affairs, be fair with his wife if the husband to practice polygamy, the weaknesses of his wife and others. Refrain from saying bad things against his good attitude is a part that should be practiced by the husband. There are husbands who frequently and fond of issuing a bad word against his wife because of an unpopular thing. Bad word against his wife also issued an abuse of mental abuse. Wife who always abuse, humiliated and scolded will easily cope with depression and fear to arise side by side with their husbands. Anyone who loves to practice violent and rather intimidated wife with harsh words will be separated from the grace of God and a loss in this world and hereafter.

The Messenger SAW is the best role model. Although he lets beat his wife after advice and boycotted in bed does not work, but he never beat his wife. Islam requires a husband to beat his wife with a punch that did not hurt though light on baby, just so that the wife's warning not to repeat her mistakes. Islam has stipulated guidelines closely related must beat, in order not to harm others who were not invited, such as medium and do not hit the face with a shot hitting the wounded. This shot also allowed after wife separated beds and still not ready to change his bad habits.

Prophet SAW also said in the hadiths, in order to cater to women's gentle and they do not foul. His words:

"O Aisyah, drive a little slower because of riding a camel today is the glass containers (soft nature of women)."

Thus does Allah likens her tenderness. If the husband is not wise, there would have been an unexpected accident will happen, even to the extent of the collapse of the household.

Rasulullah always keep the feelings of his wife and fascinate them with clever humor and mingle. The Prophet urged husbands to adapt wisely, when in addition to his wife. Rasullah is childish when in addition to his wife, although he was a hero who excels in the field of jihad.

Indeed, women like to be pampered and cuddled. Rasullah willed husbands to be good at putting himself equal in status to the wife, to avoid feeling awkward and awkward when his wife. Ever narrated in Sunan Abu Dawood and Al-Nasa'ie, Messenger race with his wife 'A'isha.

Although the Messenger of God who was busy with propagating jihad and fight in the field, but he still had space to hang out with his wife and was not an ethics violation. The Prophet said in a hadith and Muslim part:

"The most perfect believers are the best and most gentle manners and his wife." depicting Islam's most perfect believers is that they treat her thoughtful and well behaved. An example of the Apostle instructions describing his mannered with his wife saying that he is narrated by Ibn Abi Dunya, 'Aisha said that:

"All matters and the treatment he is amazing, so when he and his wife one night and was in contact with skin, he asked permission from his wife Aisha to pray to his Lord."

Such manners of the Prophet SAW with his wife, asked for permission to leave even before God, Great.

Conditions that require men and women is not just glorify all mystery, one thing is easy to state but difficult to be implemented or practiced as a universal view of all men. Has become human nature itself had great flavor Malay saying goes "equally black hair but other heart" and also ancestors said: "Otherwise another field grasshopper"; "People can sleep on the same bed but have different dreams".

For those with high ego would typically be looking at others is low compared with himself. Especially if it's a man certainly will have the light low against women, more so if the woman is not attractive in terms of appearance or ethnicity.

For me to say that themselves have a high regard for all women regardless of race, rank, and education is a difficult thing to prove.

 I just need to be principled woman high honor because she is the mother of us all, if  she were not for the sacrifice of a woman to get pregnant for more than nine months to raise our drawing this fetus, we certainly all men would not be able to experience the life in this world.

Greater sacrifices again played by women as mothers is to focus full-time to raise our infancy and adulthood and become independent. How laborious mother take care of a child who at the time was very weak and need attention and caresses her mother all the time.

If we pay tribute to his wife on behalf of women, will set a precedent for our children. When they grow up and settle down soon they will pay tribute to the woman, whether wife, mother and her family. When their mother was older she will take the initiative to care for her mother, this is demanded by Islam. In fact, Islam pays tribute to the children who are willing to take care of their mother or parent who was older by rewarding great reward in the hereafter, namely rewarded with paradise full of enjoyment. Where Islam put a very high standard of women's mothers to give the reward to the child who sees his mother's face lovingly. This status is equivalent to the Kaaba,  and Al-Quran.

Furthermore  all my maid who had served in our house is considered as part of our family. They will eat all the food eaten by our family. Never felt that helpers are workers who must be told to do the work in the house from morning to night. Very little rest time sake only given on the grounds they had been paid a salary to run the job.

For me we should pay tribute to everyone as a human being created by God in this world. They also had great advantages and weaknesses. I hold to the principle that if we want to gain the respect of others, then we also must know how to respect others.

I still warm services of a maid who was in his 40s when we live at Tanah Merah in 1985.

"Aunt make our house as your home, cook what aunt feel like to  cook’.

I told the maid that work with us.

"All right Mr Nik, I do not really know how to cook, that may be a little bit" Jah hello aunty.

“ If your need some chicken for our dishes, your just tell me .I will buy it”. I told aunty Jah.

Since that day, my maid prepare dishes according tor menu she liked, she would usually change the menu every day, aunt Jah cuisine is tasty, especially the tom yam dishes, paprek, chicken Rice,. It is true to say she is one of the best maid so far.

 Mak Jah to stay with us for more than three years has been identified to us as our mother. He is not only the maid to prepare the housework, but always give their views when there is an issue that arise in the family.. It all has become memories that we do not forget even today. In fact, our relationship with Aunt Jah hold tight until today, the ties of our friendship were remain more than 30 years. That's probably how I can give a couple honoring women who live with us.

If a man has a perception that women are the ones who have been honored in the service and sacrifice given as a mother, it's inhumane act like whipping physical and sexual abuse against women will not happen in our society. The latest scenario in our society shows that women have become the tool by the leak to get a hefty refund, women forced into sex slaves, made-selling model for the sale of a product. These negative elements were far away from the teachings of Islam get to the efforts of all stakeholders to prevent and contain it from getting worse again.

Let us all go back to put women as the most important person in human life, society and state, as been laid by Islam. Let us all practice the sayings of Prophet Muhammad SAW which put the woman is a man who needs to be respected by their children as described in the following hadith:

In the Hadith Sahih Bukhari, a man asked the Prophet Muhammad, meaning:

"Who should we respect and love of God and the Prophet?"
He answered, "Your mother"
"And then?" -
"Your mother"  
"And then?" -
"Your mother"
time to 4 man asked, "And then?"
The Prophet replied, "Your father"

Look how high the value mothers or women in Islam. A mother is not there any way we can even reply. A man came to Sayyidian Umar al-Khattab and said, "I have my mother and carry her throughout the tawaf and the haji, have I can repay the capital." Umar replied, "You have not been able to repay your mother although a drop of her tear when  you during your mother's tears."

This hadith explains after Allah and His Messenger, who should be respected and loved by a mother and father. Not just respect and love them but all the necessities of life, safety and their rights should be filled just before the child's ability.

Tips:

1.      Islam puts the status of women better than men, because women are the ones that are crucial for the reproduction of Muslims. Mother who take care the child until he grow up and independently.

2.      Men who respect women looked as noble as this attitude will cause men would not be   tortured women, especially his wife.

3..      Naturally the men respect women, because men without Him there would be exit in this world, .Woman is the teacher of all us to guide and coaching us to grow and educate us to be a honor person. We need to remember  that "paradise is under the feet of mothers”. Hadith,

Wallahu'alam