Show concern towards the family.

23.  Show concern towards the family.

Allah says in Surah al-Nisa 'verse 34: Which means: "Men are the protectors and maintainers of women". Islam has enjoined upon the husband as  head of the family  to perform household responsibilities towards driving rules and disciplines enshrined in the teachings of Islam.

Allah says in Surah al-Tahrim paragraph 6: which means: "O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is men and stones consist of (idol) ".

The commentators say this verse of the Qur'an states that Allah ordered husbands to educate themselves in order to survive the torments of hell fire by doing all the commandments of God and leaving His prohibitions. There husband has the duty to educate, forcing family members to obey God and to prohibit them from doing any evil.

The husband is the head of the family and the leader of his wife and his children. Allah says in Surah al-Nisa 'verse 34: Which means:

"Men are the maintenance of women because Allah ad made some of them to excel others and because they spend out of their property, the good women are therefore obedient, guarding the unseen as Allah has guarded ; and (as to) those on whose part of fear desertion, admonish them alone in the sleeping-places and beat them; then if they obey you, do not seek a way against them; surely Allah is High and Great.”

 Therefore, Islam has enjoined upon the husband as head of the family  to perform household responsibilities towards driving rules and disciplines enshrined in the teachings of Islam.

If the refine the Quran solved stated that God commands us to educate ourselves in order to survive the torments of hell fire by doing all the commandments of God and leaving His prohibitions. Next we also have a duty to educate, coaching family members to obey God order and to prohibit them from being involved in anything immoral and doing the sin.

Quran verses have been fortified with another paragraph describing the same thing: educating family members, forcing them to obey the command of Allah. Allah says in Surah Taha verse 132: Which means:

“ And enjoin prayer on your follower, and steadily adhere to it. We do not ask your for subsistence; We do give you subsistence, and the (good)end is for guarding (against evl)”.

Prophet SAW has said with the meaning:

  " Tell your children to pray when they are seven years old, and beat them (if they do not want to pray) when they are ten years old, and separate their beds".

I remember a religious teacher who teaches at the mosque after late evening prayer (maghrib) one day say:

"The responsibility of a husband has been lay down by Islam is that he has to ensure  his wife and family must be lead and coaching to be good person, the husband should remember that he will be held accountable before God for his role in connection later co-opted by weight or caring for the family on the following points. "

1) Provide maintenance (subsistence) to his wife and children in the form of food, drink, clothing and shelter are appropriate and reasonable in accordance with his capabilities. Allah says in surah al-Talaq paragraph 7: which means:

"Let him who hath abundance spend of his abundance; and those that are restricted, let him spend according to what Allah has given him (just as capable); On no soul doth Allah (than ability) has given him. (Those most in difficulty should remember that) Allah will bring ease after hardship. "

2) To provide education and religious upbringing entirely to his wife and children and are willing to sacrifice for their happiness. Allah says which means:

 "O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is men and stones consist of (pagan) ... "

If the husband is unable to provide religious education for his ignorance, then it is his duty to find a teacher or sending them to places that can add their religious knowledge classes Quran, fard 'ain and so on.

3) Responsible for the upbringing and education of children in accordance with the requirements of Islam. Prophet's saying:

That is: "Every child is born on the fitrah (nature) and the second parents who fill in the blank whether a Jew, Christian or Zoroastrian"

4) To maintain and protect the family, the wife and children of any danger. Allah says which means:

 "Place wives (who underwent specified time) that ye live in accordance with their capabilities and do not invent something that hurt them (in their homes) with a view to pester them (so they get out leave it "(Surah al-Talaq: 6)

 5) To lead and provide guidance to the wife and children by the wise leadership to achieve a life that pleases God as a leader in the household who are able to act in various situations and conditions with wisdom. Allah says which means:

"Men are the protectors and maintainers of women"

Islam establishes a husband should spend according to their respective capabilities, If husband is rich and can provide meals and other expense  according to  his ability; and those that are restricted, let him spend according to what Allah has given him (just as capable); On no soul doth Allah (than ability) has given him. (Those most in difficulty should remember that) Allah will bring ease after hardship. "

The reality in the lives of many husbands do not bother to ask whether their family are sufficient enough with the maintenance given or additional services that should be provided to the family.

Always caring attitude towards family if practiced by the husband, would be appreciated by all family members. Where the husband has a very caring nature to the family, will make relations between husband and wife become closer and also the relationship between parents and their children and their grandchildren will also close. If this situation can be carved in conscience every family, it will become enhancer to their families to help each other with respect to each other.

RTM would highly husband to the wife makes so dearest husband and wife, because the husband RTM would have high, when what's up, what's the problem raised by the wife or members of their families, it will quickly find alternatives to solve the problems that arise. People who have this kind of attitude is very in love by women, as is its nature to get the attention of men, even more than her husband.

High concern will also cause children always respect father. When the father of the family is given the respect by their children and grandchildren in any event, it will be easier for the father is playing its role to create a happy family sebgaimana shown by Rasullallah SAW.

A husband who has a high concern for the family, will always remember the family in your home, think about the welfare of the family. If he was abroad, will often remember the wife was at home. Despite being responsible for outstation remember the daily routine at home is still not forgotten, I'll call his wife to say hello on food, medicine and health wife paralyzed, as well as on welfare and food both mother and mother-in-law of old. When I did this attitude concerns, children are assigned to take care of his mother and grandmother would make sure that all assignments are recording your every day routine should be done according to schedule.

A caring husband will also make sure all families under the trust responsibility established by legislation children are adequately implemented. For example relating to maintenance, I will make sure to provide enough of each month. To ensure that maintenance is sufficient  I had to work hard all the time. A situation that is quite acute for me when I was retire at age 55.

The amount of my retirement money  is not enough to coupe with my  monthly expenses.  To cover the shortfall, I had to work with private companies. God bless me with my work hard to obtain additional  money to cover the pension, God has please my duo that He  give me the job, and my salary is  sufficient support any shortcomings.

Tips

1.      Husband who have demonstrated a high level of concern to their families will get appreciation of all members of his  families. He  will be respected by his wife and children and the in law, and their grandchildren.

2.      Husband's so much concerned about making a living will always be hard working  person to find income to be given to their families. If he has some persistent to succeed in life, it is definitely a husband like this will achieve success at the end of life and settle down. The husband is such a dedicated person at all times, and certainly Allah, Most Gracious, will provide for a sufficiently.

3.      husband that boasts high concern to their families will always make sure that he will carry out the mandate to protect his family  with  sufficient resources, obtained through dietary sources. In terms of spending he spent wisely for his family but not to wasteful spending. This attitude caused him concern as to efforts to find sufficient sustenance to their families every time, and God has promised that those who work hard will earn sufficient income. IsnyaAllah.

4.      The husband who concern to the family will receive blessings and guidance from Allah flawless ever. This is because the husband's concern will be making sure he always  commandments especially with regard to prayers. When prayers are always taken care of him and his family,, they are in God's grace all the time. IsyaAllah.

Wallahu'alam.