HOW TO CONTROL ANGER

According to the nature of Islam controlling anger

The feeling of anger is one of human nature. It varies from person to person depending on how it is able to control the anger within him. For a high level of human faith and devotion will control his anger because it is one of the unwelcome nature of God, the nature of extreme anger is the nature of Satan. So if we have the anger that means outclassed us have been influenced by the devil who had been his duty to complain between two men to quarrel with one another.

Prophet Muhammad SAW said:

" He who can control his anger, while it can take it out, then God will call him before all creatures. After that, God told him to pick an angel of heaven and married him to whom he pleases . "(Narrated by Ahmad).

So special rewards given to people who can control anger, so that God also allow it to choose it like the angel heaven. Therefore controlling the indignation is the Traits and Islam has laid a method for controlling the feeling of anger as follows: -

By Sheikh Abdul Aziz bin as-Sayyid Fathi tone  in the book of  al-Islamiyah Mausuu'atul Aadaab  revealed that a Muslim should pay attention to manners-century associated with anger. Here's how to control anger by Islam.

1. Do not get mad, except for God.

Angry because God is something they like and get rewarded. A Muslim who is angry because God's law is ignored, is one   example angry because God was angry when witnessing such illegal acts. Parents angry with his children for not praying or to delay time for prayers.

2.                   Gentle   with world affairs.

The objective of a high level of Muslim faith and devotion to achieve success in this world and the hereafter. To achieve success in this world and in hereafter we must have knowledge. Islam has outlined relations with human decency, among others, we have to connect the friendship. To strengthen our behave with fellow human must be gentle, forgiving, charitable giving sports to the needy, do good to parents, neighbors and friends. 

One of the main risk factors for a good relationship with all the people we must be patient and not friendly. If we do not control our anger will be hated by the people and will be more enemies. It will make us feel shunned by society in a Malay proverb says "Monkey Boy".

Indeed, all that anger is bad, but because Allah SWT. Fathi Abdul Aziz bin as-Sayyid Nada reminded, anger often end up in disputes and disagreements that could plunge the people into grave sin and may also decide friendship.

3.                   Recalling the glory and power belong to God as   being angry.

Normally people have strong egos anger is high, he felt he was better than anyone who scold it. .Event tough  in fact human life   is not what's up, what are the advantages and grandeur because it is God's decision.. 

We become chairman of the powers conferred by Allah, We like the sustenance bestowed by Allah, We have knowledgeable and pious is all a gift of God, we too are beautiful or handsome is blessing of  God. If God wants all the advantages and the greatness that is in us will be withdrawn at any time. For example if we are to meet the tycoon has a large and expensive house of God can pull back the enjoyment  all the item  blink of an eye, for example, our house caught fire, and all our possessions burned in the fire panting in several hours. As for memperolihi wealth of bartahun we have sought for years.

When considering the greatness of God, the soul of a person's anger can be turned off. In fact, it may not be upset at all. That is the method that   is most useful   to help a person to be humble   and patient when angry, we are encouraged to pray often third was angry.

4.                   Control and anger.

When anger is raging in our lives, we need to control the rage because it's the nature of Satan's Wrath of God.   God was menyukail person who can control his anger as firmah:   "...  and those who control their rage and pardon other people and Allah loves those who do good . "(Ali Imran: 134).

When angry, we should remember the   power of God and all God's kebersaran. This way we can control anger can be patient. When we practice in this way is always the devil can not influence a person is angry.

5.                   Seek refuge in Allah when angry.

Anger is the nature of the nature of the devil, so if a person has an extreme nature of anger he had actually been influenced by Satan. Thus to avoid ourselves be influenced by the devil when angry, we are advised to read the 'A'uudzu Billah Hirminassyaiton Nirojim "(I seek refuge with Allah from Satan the outcast).

The Prophet said, " If someone expresses anger; 'A'uudzu billah (I seek refuge in Allah SWT) will undoubtedly be pleased with anger. "(Reported by Mothers' Adi in al-Kaamil.)

6.                   Silence is an effective technique to control anger:

The stand-tempered happens when people feel the authorities are not followed or complied with his direction. This will involve two people at a time, the people who are angry and people get angry. Anger will be at the height of tension when they occur between situations in which people are angry state the reasons for his anger, and that anger will have to defend himself. In such situation  there is one more thing that we can not view with normal vision of the devil. He will instigate both sides at loggerheads teeth continue to uphold the truth, respectively.

In this way if an angry situation  silent then scolded will also be silent. When a situation occurs "silently" smoldering fires of anger at being described as the dim and not very strong. When there is an angry silence will begin to subside.

Prophet Muhammad said, " Teach, make it easy, and do not trouble. When one of you angry, let him keep quiet . "(Narrated by Ahmad).

7.                   Go mengabil Wudud when anger was at its peak.

Durian peak you asked for  feeling anger at the time it was influenced by the devil. Satan enters the human soul through the nerves and blood at the time peak se serorang anger will boil in veins, therefore we who are angry will feel the heat in the body and will be spending the sweat, the nerves under the skin there will be teas such as electricity   stir-moving , actually it is the movement of the devil.

One way to teach by  anger is when after memumcak, to escort him to go take wudud god. When we berwudud it will cool down and the devil will be weak. When Satan is weak in faith will overcome it and feel anger can be controlled. More effective when taking wuddud do regret the way wudud pray two cycles.

8.                   Changing position   when anger peaked.

Changing position when anger is indicative and order of the Prophet. The Prophet said, " If one of you gets angry when standing up, then let it sit. When anger is gone as well, then let it lie. "(Narrated by Ahmad).

By changing the position when anger will change the course of a virgin in body grumpy. When this happens it can ease the level of anger in his mind. When there is a change in blood flow in terms of speed and also the amount due to the change of temper. He will be able to control anger and replaced with a patient attitude. God willing.

9.                   Giving apology and a lot of patience.

People who are taking heightened anger sememanya he has noticed a very, very angry to the person for doing anything sir dimarahinya by mistake. Therefore anger leads us to want to give it to the people we kemafaan the buzzer. To enable us to forgive is to make an assumption that he did kesipalan menungkin accidental, or due to unwise in terms of rafting is why he made a mistake. When these responses can be made up in our minds and feelings of anger can be reduced to better control anger is to be patient. If we can produce the patience of an incident causing us to get angry.

Angry people are supposed to give forgiveness to those who are scolded. Allah praises His servants  "... and if they are angry they forgive . "(Surat ash-Shura: 37).

The nature of anger is a characteristic that is not favored by Islam, therefore we must try to control the anger that exists in our mind and also have to handle anger with excellent  so that we can be patient and forgiving.

The Prophet said, "It is not the strong man who won the fight, but  the strong is the one who is able to control his anger . " (Bukhari & Muslim).

A shock like that to control anger is not as easy as I say, in reality there is a feeling angry when we are often difficult to control and  when I get angry until climax before he is  aware that he was angry extreme ...

Allah says, "And hasten to forgiveness of your Lord and to a Paradise as wide as are the heavens and the earth, prepared for those who fear Allah, that those who spend their wealth in good times and in a cramped, and those who  restrain anger  and forgiving. Allah loves those who do good. "(Ali Imran: 133-134)

The Prophet said: "Whoever  anger  at what he was able to do it, then God would call him in front of the creatures to  God to allow him to choose a sprite he wished . " (Abu Dawud, At-Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah)

Wallahu’alam