Tips to Enjoy Sex In Islam

 Tips to Enjoy  Sex In Islam

Islam as an addin (way of life), a complete religion as human life on this earth has set guidelines for enjoying life that annoy man by God as they were brought by the Prophet Muhammad.

Sex is one of nature human life. Islam never forbids sex desire, therefore Islam has laydown  guidelines on how married couples should make their sexual relations. If done according to guidelines  constitute by Islam, then it will be an intimate relationship is considered as one of worship.

For people get pleasure of sex  should follow the desires of the human passions, so weddings also legalize sexual relations between men and women  were suggested at certain times which is considered the best time.

Time wedding best assessed by Islam is the month of Shawwal as opinion of scholars  who come from the expression Sayyidatina Aisha bint Abu Bakr that the Prophet Muhammad married in Shawwal. As narrated:

"Indeed, marriage in the blessed month of Shawwal and contains a lot of good."

However, for achiving true happiness in the household  are not adequate with  the married Shawwal. There are many things that need to be carefully studied and practiced by the couple in order to achieve tranquility (Vegas), love (mawaddah) and compassion (mercy), both inner and outer. One of them-and most important-is the issue of intimate relationships or in the language of jurisprudence is called jima’ (sex intercourse)'.

As one purpose of the implementation of marriage, intimate relationships -according to the Islamic-including one that is highly recommended worship religion and contains a very large reward value. If jima 'within the bonds of marriage is a lawful way provided by God for man to vent one's physical desires and connect descendant, descendants of Adam through good offspring, rather than through adultery.

Additionally jima 'halal is also a major meritorious worship. The Prophet said, " In a dick that is charity." Companions asked, "O Messenger of God, are we rewarded with ablution us ?." He replied, "Is not if you pass on the street illegal lust would sin? And vice versa, if channeled in a lawful way, you will be meritorious . "(HR. Bukhari, Abu Dawud and Ibn Khuzaymah)

Because of worship was glorious and it is each sex in the household must be aimed and carried Islamic way, which is in accordance with the guidance of the Qur'an and the Sunnah of the Prophet SAW.

Intercourse, according to Ibn Qayyim al-Jawzi in Ath-Tibb Nabawi (prophetic medicine), in accordance with the instructions of the Prophet has three objectives: to preserve the continuity of generations and humanity, removing fluid when languishing in the body would be dangerous, and took pleasure God supplies.

Salaf taught, "One should keep three things in him: Do not walk up, so that if one day have to do is not difficult; Do not eat, not narrowed to the gut; and not to leave the sex, because the water will be used only when there is self-cleaning.

His face Grim:

Muhammad ibn Zakariya added, "Those who do not have sex for a long time, will weaken the power of his organs, nerves will be strained and clogged blood vessels. I also see people who deliberately do not do intimate 'with the single intention, his body becomes cold and his face grim. "

While the benefits of sex in marriage, according to Ibn Qayyim, is subdued and eyes and hearts of chastity and illegal acts. Jima 'is also beneficial to physical health culprit, through its incomparable pleasure.
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The peak of pleasure is called an orgasm or faragh (climax of sex desire) . Although certainly not all endless faragh sex, but efforts to achieve optimal faragh fair is obligatory. The fair is intended faragj orgasm can be felt by both sides, the husband and wife.

Why is mandatory? Because faragh together is one important element in achieving the objectives of the Vegas wedding, mawaddah and mercy. Dissatisfaction with one party in Jima ', if left prolong, which will bring greater depression, namely infidelity. Therefore, in accordance with the basic principles of Islam, wa la la dharara dhirar (harmless and harmful), any attempt to prevent things that harm   the legitimate marriage is also obligatory.

However, the satisfaction of which must be pursued in jima 'is the satisfaction that is within reasonable limits of man, culture and religion. It is not justified to use the pretext achieve satisfaction to perform deviant sexual practices, such as sodomy (liwath) which are medically proven dangerous. Or the use of force in sexual activity (mashokisme), both physically and mentally, the latter often occur.

Therefore, in accordance with the rules of usul fiqh "ma la illa yatimmul wajibu bihi fahuwa wajibun" (something that the perfection of the conditions required, is also obligatory), identify and study the elements that can deliver jima 'to faragh also obligatory.

For men, a sign of achievement faragh very clear that when jima 'has reached the phase of ejaculation or semen out. But not so with femininity 'that most type "late summer", or  not easy to heat. To that required a variety of strategies to speed.

And, one of the most important elements of the strategy to achieve faragh is preliminary or heating in a foreign language called foreplay (isti'adah). Heating fairly and accurately, according to sexology experts, will accelerate woman reaches faragh.( climax sex pleasure).

Since it is considered very important, warming up before berjima 'also instructed the Prophet Muhammad. He said,

"Let not one of you with his wife like an animal. But he must first give an introduction, the kisses and sweet talk cooed. "(HR. At-Tirmidhi).

Kissing in the above hadith of course in true meaning. In fact, the Prophet, narrated in Sunan Abu Dawud, she kissed and nibbled her tongue. Two of these traditions while seated kiss between husband and wife as a forplay before berjima '.

When Jabir to marry a widow, the Prophet asked him, "Why did not you marry a girl so you can jolly jokes? ... Who can bite the lips with each other. "HR. Bukhari (number 5079) and Muslim (II: 1087).
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Therefore, couples should be very attentive to all the elements of the perfect kiss phase. Good to master the technique and how to kiss good, and the cleanliness and health of organs that will be used during kissing. It may be that, instead of raising the temperature jima ', bad breath is not fresh, it will reduce the spirit and intent of SEK pair.

The appeal referred to above are all words that can attract a partner, adding warmth and stimulate passion berjima '. In terms of jurisprudence sentences called rafats stimulate appeal, which is of course illegal spoken to other than his wife.

In addition to kissing and seduction, the other key element is touch-friendly heating. For married couples, the rest of the body is permitted to touch the objects, including the genitals. Especially if it is meant as jima '. Similarly, Ibn Taymiyyah thought.

Nashirudin Shaykh Al-Albanian, quoting the words of Ibn 'Urwah al-Hanbali in his book is still a manuscript, Al-Kawakbu Ad-Durari,

"It is permissible for the husband and wife to see and feel all the curves partners, including the genitals. Because genital part of the body that can be enjoyed in making out, of course can also be seen and touched. Taken from the view of Imam Malik and other scholars. "

Thanks to the greatness of God, every part of the human body have different sensibilities and sense of touch or stare. So, to increase the quality Jima ', and his wife was allowed to take off all her clothes. From Aisha ra, she recounts, "I've been swimming with one vessel preformance Messenger ..." (HR. Bukhari and Muslim).

To get the optimal touch, spouses should know well the points that are easy to arouse their partners. It needs an open and informal communication between the husband and wife, to find these points, in order to produce the maximum effect when berjima '.

Allowed for married couples who were berjima 'to sigh. Because sigh is part of increased arousal. Imam As-Suyuti narrates, there was a qadi who with his wife. Suddenly the wife twisted and sighed. The qadi was annoyed. But when the next day he came to his wife qadhi it said, "Do it like that yesterday."

One more thing that adds to the enjoyment of the intimate relationship of husband and wife, which is mated position. Incidentally Islam itself provides the widest freedom to its followers to try a variety of positions during sex. The only provisions of the Shari'a is, all sex positions that remain to be done in a way, that is the vulva. Nothing else.

Allah Almighty says,

"Your wives are a place to cultivate the anus, it may approach from any direction you want." QS. Al-Baqarah (2: 223).

Position Ijba:

According to commentators, this verse was revealed in connection with the incident in Medina. Once when some women of Medina who was married to the muhajirin complained to the Prophet, because their husbands want to have sex in a position ijba 'or tajbiyah.

Ijba sex is position where the man came from behind her vulva. At issue, the women of Madinah had ever heard of Jewish women say, whoever berjima 'by ijba' then his future will be cross-eyed. Then came a verse.

In relation to paragraph 233 of Surah Al-Baqarah was Imam Nawawi explains, "The verse shows permissibility of female copulate from the front or rear, by superimposing. The through anal intercourse is not allowed, because it is not the location of farming. "Farming is the descent.
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Muhammad Arifin Abadi Haqqil Azhim in 'Aunul Ma'bud adding," The field (hartsun) mentioned in the Koran show, women can be clocked by any means: lying, standing, sitting, and front or back .. "

Thus, Islam, as a religion rahmatan lil 'alamin, again proved to have a very complete teachings and thorough in guiding his people across the ocean of life. All sides and the potential for life peeled and given detailed guidance, so that his people should remain following Islamic law  while undergoing the nature of humanity.

Wallahu'alam

Source: Purple Silk, Free Intimate In Islamic Perspective, by Abu Umar Ba'asyir)