As a Muslim has the intention to review absolutely and
make sure our life as a husband always
obey the Commandments. Husband must be a leader that always lead his family to follow the faith of
God. If we do not obey the Commandments, that
means our promise (sahadah) which was confer by us is unacceptable by God Allah. Because it shown that we are not yet be a
honest believers. The promise must be followed by action to review obey all the
Commandments. In everyday life we need to obey the Commandments linked to the
field;
circumcision; Should not do any illegal or disobey activities. I often use the
term to 5 Principles of Life. However by reality in our daily life it is very
difficult for us to review that we always adhere to the Commandments. Except
for those who are high degree of faith
and piety.
I still remember the words of religious teacher some time ago. "Male person when been official married
has become a husband that actually receive a lot of responsibility,
His are responsible to ensure that his wife and Kids Understanding fully the
Islamic teach and faith, and must always be able to obey the faith and teach at
all times without fail. If not so husband is responsible and answerable to the Lord Allah
at hereafter and he will be sent to hell if the family which is under his
responsibility fail to follow the commandments.
" Is it possible for me to be a responsible husband to keep all my
family in line with Islamic teach ?" This is a question that often exist
in my mind as at first married ever since.
" Han, when your are
married, your wife and your kids must confirm adhere to religious
teachings," my father told to me
while we talk about the wedding day one time ago.
"In sha Allah". I am response with fully committed.
My late father advice still stick to my hearts and soul. I swear to
myself to ensure the burden of leading my family to follow the Islamic faith
and teach is always be my priority objectives. especially about prayer. That is
not compromise to absent, everybody in the family must performed 5 times per
day. Only with syariah excuse can left the solat.
I myself must lead by examples, I will ensure the 5 times prayer must
be done on time schedule by Islam. The leader by example must shown his
commitment first and after that he able to command others under his controls.
“ Subhanallah, I am as leader has to ensure myself to perform 5 times
daily prayer with out fail. That is a must to be a good and responsible
husband” I always talk to myself. This is the most important task as the
husband and father. I being given a responsibility by syariah law that the
husband must able to educate and coaching his family to be a good muslim and
good citizen.
To the extend I must lead and coaching my wife and kids to ensure all
of us have to obey all the religious teach and faith in everyday life
activities. I must check and monitor everyday to ensure the forbidden and
disobedience will not happen regarding our daily responsibility to Allah such
as prayer 5 times, fasting one month for Ramadan, paying zakat fitrah (personal
zakat, paying income zakat, and finally
performed Hajj at Mecca once in
our life.
While all the bad attitude that been classified as HARAM ( the way to
hell) must be totally left over. If it happen with out control as we did the
forbidden activities , we must immediately pray to Lord Allah asked for His
forgiveness, taubah Nashua, by pray and back to Allah for forgiveness and make
an intension not to do again the same mistake in the near future.
while the circumcision is practiced should be as far as possible as giving
alms, helping others whose are distress, doing charity work for poor people and
orphan.
A situation that given a free choice to us to do or not to do, I always
advice my wife and kids try to accommodate the teach and take a decision to follow
what been experienced by our grand Ma and Pa which is given benefit to us. I
will ensure we be accept to that give
good impact to our life and give harmony relationship to other people.
Things that Should be given to a crash whether to perform or otherwise
such as to eat fish and vegetable based dishes
or to eat red meat or white flash. It is free for us to take any decision what ever we like.
Things that advisedly not to do
(makroh) priority for us to leave or not to eat such as not advise to eat
garlic when we are going to mosque to perform prayer ( solat) . It’s also apply
to smoker cigar that been put lawly as makroh. Luckily I am not the smoker. That is one of my
special principle which is proud by my wife as we start to know each other 36
years ago. Lately doctor confirm that cigarette is bad to human health and it
will lead to cause cancer to the smoker. I put my personal aim not to smoke
till the end of my life. InsyaAllah.
In keeping intention to review compliance commandments hearts everyday
life, we need to sufficient knowledge of the law and order of religion. To ensure this been compliance we must update
the knowledge and continuous learning must be done. If we have the attitude not
to study any more, that is the wrong attitude, because in the real world, the
development and improvement of our technology, knowledge and skill it upgrading
from time to time. We must be able to avoid the stigma of stop learning to the
senior citizen people, it is a great mistake, because the fact human life in the universe are very
dynamic to change forever. So it is
worth for us study everyday to comply to
the change need by the environment of change and it increased with time.
Try to look around us everyday, internet tools Development and
Communication Technology leaps and bounds. Children and grandchildren in the
future is extremely expose to internet
technology. So it is the time for every
husband to be expose with the latest development of communications technology.
Thus very important to be able our self to ease the way of communication with
the younger generation where as their
culture has been influenced to the life virtual borders less world,
I still remember, my 4 years old grandson alert me at one time,
"Tok Dad, wait a minute. The computer is still loading".
Grandson said when he saw me try to punch key board.
“ Oops , how stupid of me, the 4 years old grandson is more advance
than his grand pa” that the words come to my mind when been alert by grand son,
for some time when I visited my eldest daughter at Putrajaya.
"I'm ashamed, grandson has
better computer skill than me? " This is the reality of life, science that
incident I try my self to update the knowledge of every things that I think
useful for our daily life.
.
By doing that, I am more confident to face the latest development of
the world. This what been talked by our be love Rasulullah SAW “ To day is
better than yesterday, and tomorrow must be better than today” this principle
must be applied to everything we did in our daily life. That is.
To ensure that I can be a husband and father Yang MAY ALSO emulated
Posted Wife And Children, I am forced to increase religious knowledge every
time. More, More, More I is not coming back to school upbringing religion.
On the Primary Only enrolled in public schools (1960-1966) and entered
the stream English High School for five years.
A shock like that, I was lucky to graduate school short sentences and
served as a priest and as a Supervisor Vice PT Marriage. My father was also a
religious teacher who teach in several mosques and madrassas. The life of such
an enabling environment I was educated WITH A STRONG religious discipline,
especially in relation to the practices that are in demand Fardu Posted Islam.
"How many Pleasure of God
blessed to use every moment, Lives Mercy, Mercy Air, air, abundant water,
health grace, mercy appetite and much more, countless" the father said to
the congregation in the mosque hears by audience.
" we as a husband who lives in His grace should thankful "
continued the verse with great enthusiasm, the Jemaah just nodding to sign a
deal.
'God would not want to pay of His grace at all, the only thing we
should do just pry and follow of His Ordinance and exalt Him. Do all His
commands and prohibitions to leave all. "Dad explained Again.
The words that I still remember to this day, although my father was
gone, back to His Creator over 15 Years Ago. Words of wisdom is what become my
Life Guidelines to worship God for the life time.
My religious knowledge which I was acquire through un formal education
learning. My father is the teacher whose guided me and always added the value
of improvement my Islamic knowledge. I gain my knowledge by discussing several
issues such as economic, politics and education etc.
I still remember the discussion of government economic development plan
one day.
" Our government table the Five Years Economic Development Plan to eradicate the
poor”. I told father one night during my Hari Raya vocation.
“ Impossible to eradicate the poverty” my father response to me,
“ That statement is wrong, It is against the nature of universe”. He
try to convinced me,
“ Allah The Creator create all thing in the universe are pairs, Big
verses small, rich verses poor, happy verses sad, life verses death etc. .” Dad
try to confined his word.
‘’ Be law of nature, there will be a poor people from times to times,
the poor definition is relatively flexible”
“ If the person whose stay in town, their household income RM 2,500.00
per month, is still under poor low income, but if he stay at rural area,
RM2,500.00 is include under rich people, that the reality of life now days”.
Father debate his point like an economist. I just node my head to agree what father
said.
“ further more in the holy Quran, Allah stated that the poor is part
of the society that should be the
responsible of rich to take car by giving income zakat”.
“ The correct word should use be
uses is To Reduce the number of poor people," said father
confidently as his word been support by me.
“ Your are correct dad”. I try to support father talk.
The situation is normal in our family when we has an issue. it look
like my father always lead the situation because he will put the proof of Quran
verses, that I am gain my knowledge in religious principle and faith. Out of
these discussions make me gain knowledge, especially about law and order of
Islam.
Such a situation does become a routine discussion when I returned to
the village during University holidays. During the discussion I'm more
focused on thinking academic by
arguments Economic and social sciences, while my father thoughts more focused
on religious law and order based on the Quran and Hadith. The discussions and exchange views on such
matters made me more matured and deeper in understanding faith, law and order
of Islam from time to time. Thus the informer education that educate me to know
batter about the faith and practiced of Islam in our life.
Such atmosphere has gone for the
last 15 years ago, It just a memorable when father was passed away. I am very
glad to my father whose always guided me on Islamic way of life to get the
pleasure of Lord Allah. Thanks Allah. I used to follow father style in
providing training and learning to
our Children and grandchildren till now.
To ensure our children performance pray five time a day, I will always remember
them when there is opportunity to communicate with my sons and daughters.
“Have you perform your prayer?"
words come from my wife as once our
child pass over our bed room. Sometime
the opportunity to remind our kids when they
comes to get some pocket money before they went to school.
"This is your pocket money boy, remember your 5 times prayer
daily”. That the regular expressions by
me or wife when ever we dealing with kids. Thank God It’s positive effect to our family.
However, when all of them grown
up, they began too busy with their own business. They can made their decision to perform their
prayer accordingly. Either in the house of at the mosque. I just follow up
through SMS to refresh them.
As been taught by Hadis Rasulullah SAW, “ Be friends with your children
when their age is 18 year and above..” it is advisable to be friend and it seem
the most effective way to educate our child.
“ Dad wishes many-many thanks to all, your performance so far are
good” I talked as opening speech during
our family meeting one day.
“ Thanks for been a good and obey to Islamic faith and law at all
times. So far so good, That practice should permanently be continuous in our
life if we put an intention to be good Muslim”. I elaborate more regarding our objective
and goal in the life to get pleasure and pleasant by Allah, that we will be
reward with haven Jannah in the hereafter.
“ Now dad open the discussion to all, you can put a comment to dad and
mom. Regarding our responsibility sa parents”. I open our meeting to all the
members.
“ I am personally and represent
all my brothers, sisters and all our kid, to wishes thousand thanks to Dad and
Mom, that both of you take care for us”. Along, my eldest daughter spoke as
representative of all.
“Thank you " I reply.
“ Dad and mom wishes many-many thanks to all of your that able to be a
good person whose obey the law and order of Lord Allah in everyday life”.
“ Thanks God whose bless our doa”.’ “ Both of us are very happy with
all of your performance last year”.
Thank God, the God Who gives guidance to me be consistent to obey God's commandments,
which was adopted by my wife and children.
As we were marriage till now day, I never and ever hit my wife, and
also we never facing the serious crisis, our great loyal lover evergreen and
lasting for more 35 years. Allahamdulillah
with God pleasure we manage to entertain our sincerity and loyalty love. Our loving relationship of husband and wife is always smoldering and
happiness is always fresh. The most important factor that to sustain our loyal
lover due to intention been put by me as husband to take fully responsibility
to please Allah both in this world and hereafter. Maybe God has guided us to
avoid any serious differences Intent to our family and we most always eager to
obey the Commandments of God.
As so when we heard the situation where husband abuse cruelly to his
wife, I cannot imagine what kind of man
That can be as such rude and brutally Hit the wife when there is a
differences of ideas and tough. Event tough the wife is husband partner to
release his tension and sharing the distress. The person who entertain his sex
need and emotionally places of stress release.
It is un fair for a small problem, the husband hammered his wife in such a way. Such action is extremely again the teach by Rasulullah SAW. The Prophet is the
husband of the very gentle with all
Wife. If the husband hit his wife for what ever reason, Islam was set the
prescribed procedure. Thus who brutally
hit his wife is due to the lack of religious knowledge and the person that did
not obey the law and order of Islam.
In addition to prayer, reading the Koran every day has become a routine
for me and my wife, our kid frequently read when they feel free. This practices
is one of the way to regain the peaceful mind and soul. The impact of recite
the Quran it will be a factor of healing process for most of the pain we suffer
and also will made the reciter emotionally feel fresh and calm. Quran reciter
which focus to the Quran reading procedure will be part of process to exercise
the brain and our soul focus and the process is to be a good for brain development,
some time it been call as the brain tonic. Beside the Quran also to a good
healing for most of the pain in human body.
To help my wife be influent reading the Quran, I bought the new
electronic technology called “ Quran Pen reader” it is very simple to use just
pointing the pen needle to the page of Quran, It is automatically recite the
Quran by the world best reciter of Masjid Al Haram Macca. By using this
technology it is easy for us to furbish
and made correction of our reading style.
Thank God that He has granted Intention four our family to be
consistently recite of Quran in our daily life.
Now I am able to read fluently. I am also hire a ladies
Quran Reading Teacher to come to my house to teach my wife and all the
children. The Quran Reading classes. That bee schedule for 3 days in a week.
The class begin after night prayer. The habit of reading Quran daily will be a
good source to release our tension, some time ago I was read an articles
regarding the healing or Quran, it is true, my wife after she practices reading
Quran as a consistent her daily activity it seen the healing process of her
pain be a proven the she was better than before. Her mind set dan way of
thinking to the hope of the her future world is more positive as compare as before,
at the early stage of stroke she is more inferior and
depress.
As a husband it is a must to
gain the skills of family management and caring, beside that the husband also need to manage the family financial and economics. We
also need careful plan according priority needs by the family and used the
money accordingly to the needs and priority. If we do not proper plan, possibly monthly income cannot coupe the monthly spent. Thus will be a problem of
cash flow and the end of the month we have to borrow form other people. Thus
the situation will be trap be the Money Lender (Along) whose lend the money
with high interest rate. The was is forbidden by Islam.
"O God as your servant . I
begged forgiveness and repent in differences All errors and omissions that
violate the command thee. Thou art the Oft-Returning, Most Forgiving."
Amin Ya Rabil Alamin
Tips:
1. Basic knowledge of religion is
essential to the husband as head of the
family, because it will be used to review educate wife and children on the
wright path of Allah law and order. To
be a husband is actually your are committed to take responsible of your wife
and family. Any failure the husband will
be questioned in the Hereafter. So to be
a best husband, we have to acquire more knowledge of Islamic faith, law dan
order to ensure our family can be guided accordingly and inline with the
Islamic tough that will bring our family a success In the current world and the
day hereafter. Insya Allah.
2. The husband with vast
knowledge of Islamic faith will able to guide the family in the wright path.
Those who have the knowledge and practices in live will be a leader as example to their follower, Thus their daily
life style will be guided by the Lord Allah and having the pleasant of Allah
all the times. This will bring the family to have a better
living in the world and hereafter,
3. Reading Quran as daily activity will be
a good source of healing to the stroke patient. Thus by reading Quran it
proven it is barakah of word of Lord
Allah. The direct effect is the patient will be more confident and able to
reduces stressed. This will be a good source to regain future life confident
and finally will improve the recovery process. ( this is due to the reality of
my stroke wife for 15 years, now she mange to live as a normal person).
4. The Husband with strong religious
knowledge and practiced in their life, able to overcome all the challenges and tests of God
with great patience and ability to maintain domestic harmony and good relations between husband and wife
until the end of life. The husband with patient and always guide their family
according to Islamic teach will obtain a good relationship in the family and
their life is a great pleasant of Allah
in the world and hereafter. InsyaAllah. (God Blessing).
5. The evaluation of internet technology
in the borderless world to indicate that the
need of continuous learning been adopted as part of our latest
lifestyle. We must be able to learn new IT technology to be able to communicate
with our children as they use to communicate through internet as part of their
way of communication each other. “ The
principle of LEARNING FOR THE WHOLE LIFE” should be adopted.
6. Skills designing and managing the
family finances is a skill essential to a husband who wants to be exemplary
husband is brilliant. If the husband is not smart enough to make the Family
Income Applicable and insufficient. The
husband who is responsible to control family income should have the skill of
financial management.
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