Philosophy of marriage according to Islam

Philosophy of marriage according to Islam

In the Holy Quran explained that the purpose of marriage is to get peace and happiness, as Allah says which means:

 "And among the signs of Allah that He has made ​​for you spouses that you get peace / happiness with him. Then God created between the two of you mawaddah and mercy. " (Surah al-Rum, paragraph 21)

Nature is wonderful because God created it in pairs. There afternoon, some evenings. There is a fertile place, some are barren. There are high mountains and deep valleys, but there is also a deep ravine. There are male and some are female. There are male and female. God created human pair to live so that they can go hand in hand, sharing his joys and sorrows, and stay together in the surf life full of thistles, thorns, expectations, resistance and challenges to achieve the goal of getting mardatillah happy family.

In addition to tranquility in marriage, God also created mawaddah and mercy in the hearts of husband and wife. Some commentators discern the meaning mawaddah and mercy. For them, mawaddah is a love based on humanism lust, the desire to have a husband and wife about to give birth and develop the human lineage. 

Mawaddah or desire to perform conjugal relationship has limits as human life itself. When a man aged 60-70 years and women aged 50 years, mawaddah will be reduced. So, at this time God will raise mercy or compassion pure in heart couple. According to Prof Dr Sulaiman, mercy is higher than the mawaddah because it affection between husband and wife are no longer based on the desire of lust, but love pure soul grows from the inside so that the spouse who does not feel happiness and tranquility edge limitless. At the moment they no longer think about tongkat ali, Viagra and other drugs to restore the power of sexual energy but they want is to fill The final days of worship and draw closer to Allah as close together. 

They also tried to set a good example, example and advice to children and grandchildren so that they are not wrong in choosing the way of life in this world full of conjecture. This is the essence of mercy that. 

Looking at the case in our country, where there have reportedly been many elderly couple who split up because he wants to marry younger, it can be said that the crisis in marriage to the extent mercy sex a goal. At this time, as if God only gives us mawaddah but favors repeal of mercy. As a result, cases like above are 

becoming more and more distant domestic happiness. Allah will lose compassion in a family when the family built on the intention of seeking the pleasure of Allah. 

Therefore, in the process of building a home, Allah gives guidance to Muslims to choose a partner for the four principles, namely beauty, lineage, wealth and religion. But Allah burdensome for religion to be a priority. There are times when people choose a partner because of its beauty and wealth that they forget that beauty and wealth is temporary. Similarly, the offspring and lineage not always guarantee happiness. That is because Allah sent choosing a partner because of the lack of such a reason, wealth and lineage or ancestry will be executed by religion. 

Women who are going to arise in the face of beauty that is born of the soul and shine the whole body, not cloaked in false beauty make-up. Women who are religious will also bear qana'ah properties, which felt quite at their disposal and not force yourself to achieve something. Nature is what is said by experts with a wealth of real mysticism. 

Religion also distinguishes a human being with another human being, not because of their status and as Allah says which means: "Verily, the most honorable in the sight of Allah is the most righteous."

By The family built on religious grounds will have a clear goal. For them, life on earth is just one way to eternal afterlife so that whatever they do in the family is not out of the original intention to create a happy family who are acceptable Allah and fight in the cause of Allah in all aspects of their lives. 

In Islam, family, relationships, marriage was lawful not only meet the passions alone, but it is one that aims to create a generation of religious or devout offspring. Family righteous will produce righteous people and will be the basis for the country's good, civilized and friendly. The concept of marriage is what distinguishes man as an animal. One of the best ways is to instill awareness to the community about the nature of marriage in Islam or philosophy as a means of creating a happy family, not merely meet the needs of orgasm alone. Completion of religious values ​​is needed in a family that has a clear goal in filing a marriage.

Married with clear goal to get God blessing will be born happiness, responsibility, mutual help and attitudes commitment to achieve happiness and enjoyment of life of husband and wife, married and dream of eternal happiness  to Paradise .. God willing.

Wallahu'alam.