Be forgiveness husband.

22. Be forgiveness husband.

God made man perfectly equipped with various desires and feelings. All of nature which God created it has a partner or opponent, respectively. For example, GOD created his opponent pretty - ugly, man – women,  high-low, young – old; rich – poor; happy – sad; and so on. .

Forgiveness  is one of the  nature of humans.  In reality of life not everyone has the ability to be  forgiveness to what wrong doing to him except those who believe on the faith of Islam that forgiveness is one of the good practice of the individual and will be reward by Allah with special place in the haven.  Forgiveness  is a great virtue which should be practices by any  person  who said almost in sight of GOD.

In the Quran surah Ali Imran verse 134, which means GOD reminded, " Those who spend (benevolently) in ease as well in straitness; and those who restrain (their) anger and pardon men; and Allah loves the doers of good ( to others)”.

Individuals who are able to withstand the fury of those who have placed themselves in glory, valor, sincerity and true strength. Conversely, people who are not able to withstand the anger is weak and easily influenced devil.

In a hadith narrated by the Prophet said:

 "is not the strong man (rated) with (power) in the scuffle, the real strong man is the one who can control himself when angry," This hadith is agreed upon by al-Bukhari and Muslim.

Because of that, the Prophet ordered that always intolerant and unforgiving nature when confronted with a problem that could cause a person emotionally challenged.

Forgiving nature gave great mind pleasant to yourself we especially spiritually. People who are forgiving are always quiet, clean hearted, open-minded, easy to consult and always looking inside himself to do good.

Prophet  Muhammad SAW had to deal with anger when he saw how his uncle, sayidina Hamzah Abu Talib brutally murdered and beyond the limits of humanity in war of Uhud. Anger and resentment Prophet eventually softened by  GOD when revelation of the Quran to ask Allah's Messenger persevered and have patience with a major test of the receipt.

GOD says in Surah Ali Imran verse 159 means:

"Thus it is due to mercy from Allah that you deal with them gently, and had you been rough, hard hearted, they would certainly have dispersed from around you, pardon them therefore and ask pardon for them, and take counsel with them in the affair; so when you have decided, then place your trust in Allah, surely Allah love those who trust.”

Nevertheless, in reality it is very difficult for a man practiced by husbands. As is the nature of the male ego is very high. Moreover, in its role as a husband who entrusted as head of the family has a major responsibility regarding the welfare and interests of the family.   More so hard when the husband of a wife was educated and graduated high school. Most of the this status will be more egoistic and self proud, what he is saying is the regulation to the family.

It is very difficult for a husband to remove the adjective "fierce" has become instinctive man. Especialy when in some cases the husband feels it is correct in all respects and will scold wife had made ​​a mistake. His wife has a sensitive nature with the extreme action of husband, for example a husband who had just returned from work feeling tired and stressed with problems in the office, and when he had not even had time to sit at home, his wife was quacking angry because her husband forgot to buy the goods ordered by her. The slightest mistake can become chaotic if each tried each vertical truth. And every body try to fight for their right . At this situation the forgiveness husband must have the skill and understand the psychology of women. If they have the skills to cope with excessive anger, it will be easy for the   husband to be forgiveness.

One thing we need to remember that temper is a friend of the devil who  has a role to distract humans from obeying God's order. Therefore if we in anger, then we should follow the tips that are taught by Rasulullah SAW how to control anger.

 "If you get angry in a standing position, then Sit down, anger can be controlled. If you've been sitting, change   position so lying. If anger is out of control, we recommend that you go to take wudud (ablution) , because the water was cold and  can cold down the angry  embers ignited by the devil.

Forgiving husband will get a strong love of their children. Because people are forgiving able to control his feelings when facing   problematic issue. Forgiving someone will make a more detailed study of related issues that arise. If the analysis of the occurrence of a problem among children are caused by several factors that can be controlled and even that is out of control. If we as a forgiving head of the family will be pardoned first offense. Situations like this are needed to improve the behavior of children who are growing up in an environment full of challenges lately.

Children who have committed offenses should be counseled that good fathers and mothers because by giving rational advice can bring awareness to children so as not to make the same mistake in the future. The boy confessed that it was wrong and apologized for the mistakes made, parents should take a forgiving attitude toward forgiving mistake by children. When we give sorry he will be able to restore family relationships between parents and children.

Forgiveness people will find they are popular among people of all walks. If we are forgiving of our lives to be quiet, because forgiveness is in a person cause he will have a lot of friends. Living surrounded by many friends that will expedite the processing of what we will do, if there was trouble there will be only those few who are willing to help us.

Tips

1.      Have a forgiveness  nature is a characteristic that is demanded by Islam. If Allah is Pardoning something there for us as human servants of God who hides everything. Even a very commendable practices by Rasullah SAW is forgiveness nature.

2.      To be forgiveness is quite difficult if the man did possess high personal ego. If our ego still means we have yet another peak at levels many believers. The ego or pride is the very nature hate by God and it is a trait possessed by the devil. Satan got the wrath of God because my ego does not want to bow down to Adam when he was ordered by Allah. Satan with his ego, which made ​​the fire while the prophet Adam was created from clay. As a result of his disobedience that God has forbidden impersonate syiatan from heaven and will be incorporated into hell. But the devil is still ego and ask God to extend the period of his death until the Day of Resurrection, and vowed to be the instigator of the descendants of the prophet Adam, that would stay with him into hell, except for those who believe.

3.      If we have the nature of love to give forgiveness to others, our daily life in a state of tranquility and peace. The nature of love will make us forgive not have many enemies, people very much like to be friends with people who are forgiving. Forgiveness is one of the factors that can overcome stress in everyday life. Why does   this happen, because after we forgive those who make one to  us, we are no longer bothered about what had happened  and resentment within us will also disappear. If no notice of revenge in our soul, blood flow and hormone in the body to normal, the outcome of this situation will make our life happy all the time. People are always happy to be able to slow down the process of physical aging.

4.      If the husband is a  forgiving person, life of his wife is cheerful and full of love. When this happens the wife as the mother can serve and educate their children with the utmost joy and perfect. The situation of children who Buds with a cheerful environment and lovely nature will produce individuals who are virtuous,  integrity, quantum polite and refined manners. This is the generation successor and coatings that will heal the leadership of society and the State in the future and they will be excellent man.

5.      Husband who will be able to forgive idol and role model to children. They are so proud to have a father, a family head may forgiving their mistakes, especially mistakes first. If this situation had been created in the minds of children - children they will grow up in an atmosphere of forgiveness and will make it very open-minded. When they grow up to emulate the forgiveness of his father will be a culture of life, where all family members have lived forgiving culture, will be born a society of which tolerate  and forgiving. This is a very good atmosphere to produce a good citizen, tolerance and forgiveness always pairs. .

6. The   forgiving nature of a person will be always blessed life and get the pleasure of Allah. Her life will be guided by God's blessing and guidance, makes it always a happy family.   forgiving nature that is owned by a husband will make their families live under the mercy of each other. Their household will be a model to the goals of the "House of   Paradise by. It will constitute a happy family that is the dream of all of us.

Wallahu'alam.