Jealousy is indeed human
nature. In the case of relations between the two lovebirds being tossed lovelorn
romance jealousy often occur. Thus, if jealousy is gone, the love of a person
to a dispute. Indeed jealousy in Islam is more precious and valuable compare to jealousy driven home by the many couple
of young people.
Sheikh Ibrahim bin Muhammad al-Haqil wrote in his book Al-ghirah
Baina as-Syar'i wa al-waqi ' . Emphasizing the fact that according to Islam
jealousy at all clean and far from mundane lust. . Jealousy in
Arabic uses the word "ghirah" meaning is that when someone saw
something teachings of Islam belittled and ignored, his heart infusion and
revolted to prevent sin concerned. . A true believer will feel jealous and
uncomfortable when he saw the prohibitions of Allah are violated. "This is
the essence of jealousy," wrote Sheikh Ibrahim. . Lack of feeling jealous
of a believer shows his faith so weak. Because, as stressed by the hadith of
Bukhari, Muslim, Abu Hurairah, Allah will "jealous", so should a
believer. "Jealousy" God is when His prohibitions are ignored. .
The faithful messenger of Allah is the most powerful features of
jealousy within the meaning syar'i. This is confirmed in the hadith narrated by
Muslim from Abu Hurairah. Prophet Muhammad insisted he is human
"jealous" within the meaning syar'i. . "And God is 'jealous'
again," the word of the Apostle. And, the friends is the next generation
of "inheriting" a sense of the strong. . Jealousy, it is very
important in Islam. Jealousy within the meaning syar'i that the good and evil
deter and prevent havoc in the society.
The Prophet Muhammad said , which means:
"Three people will be forbidden from heaven; 1. People who are
addicted to alcohol; 2. The person who betrays the two parents; 3. Men are a
coward, that the silence or approve the act of adultery among family members.
(Narrated by Ahmad from Ibn 'Umar. Hadis valid. Al-Jami' as-Saghier, no. 3503).
Attitude and jealousy are common to humans and nature. We were not
alone, even the people in the House, the
family home of the prophet also experience it. God recorded this story takes
place in expert bait so that the wives
of ordinary people can learn from it. Namely, the prophet and his family are
not angels, they are humans like us. This story is in the Quran in Surah
at-Tahrim (Prohibition) verses 1-5. In the story, a few wives of the prophet (Hafsah`
and 'Aisha) felt jealous of Zainab who was serving honey (favorite prophet) to
him. So Hafsa and she conspired so that both said mouth of the prophet at the
time and the place smelled different. Prophets like we always understand,
always keep your mouth clean by carrying wooden toothpick travel anywhere he
goes and he banned his honey to yourself just to please his wives. Then God
told Aisha and Hafsah talk about this to him.
“ O Prophet! Why do you forbid (yourself) that which Allah has made lawful for you; you seek to please you wives; and Allah is forgiving merciful.
Allah indeed has sanctioned for
you the expiation of you oaths and Allah is your protector, and He is the
knowing the Wise.
And when the prophet secretly
communicated a piece of information to one of hi wives – but when she informed
(others) of it, and Allah made him to know it, he made he know part of it, she
said: Who informed you of this? He said: The Knowing, the one of Aware,
informed me.
If you both turn to Allah, the
indeed you hearts are already inclined (to this); and if you back up each other
against him, then surely Allah it is Who is his Guardian, and Jibreel and – the
believers that do good, and the angels after that are the aiders.
Maybe, his Lord, if he divorce
you, will give him in you place wives better than you, submissive, faithful,
obedient, faster, widow and virgins”
This chapter is very, very meaningful to women or wives. The wives of the prophet called أمت المؤمنين (mother of the believers) ditaqdirkan by God did this so that mistakes are exposed and their story immortalized in the Quran to be learned by our people who believe. Important things that women need to learn as a way to husband, not troublesome husband, do not really follow the dictates of his wife, a description of the secrecy of the household and the awareness that God is constantly watching households and properties of a good wife, as the next verse;
And when should we read in verse 6 of the same chapter faltered and wept and repented, I hope we do not become fuel for the fire.
“ O you who believe! Save yourselves and your family from a fire whose fuel is men and stones; over it are angels stern and strong, they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them, and do as they are commanded.”
Obviously, I had great jealousy, but jealousy is controlled, open it anyway jealous., Jealous of the situation to occur relatively my wife once, because my wife is a full-time housewife, everyday more time to stay at home to take care of routine daily at home with family. Now classified as a disabled wife who needs help every time. The possibility of cheating is quite difficult.
On the other hand, my own vigilant to avoid feeling jealous by my wife.. The nature of my work place in the office which
dealing with the public, and majority the office mate are woman, I had to be
very careful in chat and communicate with
them in the office. Once in a while when we need to work overtime to complete the
important and urgent task. I will make sure there is no room for slander, because be pair between male and female outside office hours can apply khlawat suspicious. I will proactively take preventive matter
by make sure to 3 people will working
overtime outside normal office hours.
I take preventive matter to avoid jealousy by always be ware of
possibly suspect of slander between me and other women, by avoid my self sit
together with other women as a couple. Otherwise the numbers of person to be
more then 3 person at one time. My preconscious action able to avoid my self
with slander and gossip with the time more than 30 year work with government and
private sector. Till I was retired. My
name is clean without and bad thing and dirty trick. Alhamdulillahl.
My tip makes me jealous for a
positive is a mean of putting ourselves in the situation of people who
were jealous when we put ourselves in other people's feelings we can feel how
difficult a person who suffered the jealousy of his beloved spouse. Once we are
able to explore their feelings, then we try to find a way to avoid jealousy
that arise. By adopting a method of putting ourselves in the shoes of others,
we can find an alternative to prevent recurrence of such incidents.
"Prevention is better than cure".
I've always been very careful in this issue jealous because my wife had
expressed her feelings of jealousy in the atmosphere prevailing in the hospital
in 1986 before;
“ darling, who with you at the ward entrance just now?” asked my wife
whose lay on the hospital bad,
“ Ohh, that my school mate, we did not meet since 15 years?”
“ It true ? Look like special girlfriend, the way you char with her?’
“Don’t be jealous honey. Just old friend ,,, we just talked about our
friend at the school last time”. I try to convinced my wife’
"The old girl friend is that, because that seems to be very
friendly"
‘'Ish which is not usually je "
“ Dare you do that in front of me” wife look sad and turn her face
away, Seen a drop of tear at her eyes flow down.
"Long time no see if indeed, the chat was fun" I try to
convince my wife,
From that incident, I'm always
cautious in daily interactions with ladies to avoid feeling of jealous by my wife.
Because I also have the same feelings of jealousy when I saw my wife chatting
with other men.
In conclusion, to avoid the excessive jealousy between husbands and
wives, the most effective action is their role to avoid behaviors that allow
jealousy arises. As the Malay saying goes, "Prevention is better than
cure". In Islam, there is also
teaching his followers to "Do not approach adultery"
In the case of the jealous husband is a very important role, as head of
the ruling family and he had a wife. For avoidance of jealousy that could bring
the collapse of the household is located on the husband's attitude has openness
on issues of jealousy. More potent if the husband takes proactive steps to
alert the actions are questionable each day to ensure it is running according
to the teachings of Islamic Sharia and
Sunnah, and the most important is ensuring her social action outside the
household should try to avoid situations that can lead to feelings of jealousy
by his wife and children and family or relatives.
TIPS
1. The nature of jealousy is the nature
that God created for all humans, regardless of gender, men or women.
2. Jealous positive is good to avoid
becoming a coward husband. The husband should have feeling of jealous to his
wife if she is going out with other men, the action to avoid any slander
happen.
3. If excessively jealous as jealous rage
can lead to marital relationships will be destroyed in an instant, because
ordinarily people would act blindly jealous unexpected, especially when there
are jealous because his wife suspected has an affair with men .
4. In order to avoid jealousy or envy
negative enjoy, anything to avoid actions that can trigger feelings of jealousy
husbands and wives should be avoided from happening in the daily lives. Because the action carefully and always be
alert by husband and wife will prevent excessive jealousy can occur which will destroy
crown home built over the years.
5. Jealous positively promoted by Islam
is jealous of people who can perform their religious duties very well, or
someone who is always looking to add to his knowledge whether science world and
especially eschatology. We recommend that jealousy with the desire to do the
same thing better. This type of jealous is allow to happen by Islam .
Wallahu'alam.
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