Divorce is Permissible (Halal) But Very Despised by God

Divorce is Permissible (Halal)  But Very Despised by God

We explore this issue so that we can avoid them and at the same time we seek further why the divorce should happen? Why do we often hear people so easily and so too young to marry for short time and divorced? If marriage was a good deed is considered as the builder of the mosque, but do not makes it an easy to divorce. Are we able to tear down the mosque?

The Prophet said, "Something most permissible ( halal)  but despise by Allah is divorce." This shows on the one hand that sometimes divorce cannot be avoided. So that if there is one couple that did not have an understanding and is still forced to continue, it will be detrimental to all parties. Allah allowed divorce, but cautioned that divorce is the most despise lawful by Allah.

Therefore, if they can live together without divorce, they should maintain the marriage. Some even say the following, "the king's throne we know how strong.  Moreover throne of God, strongest unimaginable. In the event of divorce, the throne of God was so great strong from vibrate. It can be described that God hates divorce and keep his temper so to protect the throne. Are not those who restrain anger, his body shaking and vibrating throne reside place? "

Well, the divorce cause" shaking the Throne of Allah because God hates. But if there is an urgent need that cannot be avoided because of the nature and human do not 100% perfect. Then God allowed to divorce. So when we speak of divorce, it is describe as follow:

1. When the Quran allows divorce, do not assume that He (Al Quran) recommends divorce. Do not assume that when God established the divorce that it was something that easily can be done. Divorce was not a suggestion but if there is an urgent need that cannot be avoided, what can we do. Another word divorce is the last solution.

2. Never elaborated on MARRIAGE, that Allah   SWT give ordinance  that the marriage can be lasting, even in this world but until the hereafter. Given responsibility  before applying, how during mating, and how to make the domestic life was quiet, peaceful, sakinah, mawaddah wa Rahmah.

Al Quran asks to the husband who in his powers to divorce his wife, that think before you drop the divorce. In the QS. An-Nisa (4), paragraph 19: "If you are not happy, is behind something you enjoy doing something good." That is why divorce is still given a chance to return to 2 times divorced. 

There is 1 divorce, divorce 2, later on when divorces 3, but has dropped back -there are subjects that are so hard that- be married first wife with someone else, then if she divorced, you can refer to. That's also why God through His Messenger have decided that divorce cannot be considered to fall if in exceptional circumstances. Divorce is twice. First divorce fell divorce, then given the opportunity to husband and wife to think. It's beautiful is not it?

So difficult requirements for divorce this fall, but so easily after divorce one's back. I give you an example, in Surah Ath-Thalaq, and we have adopted also in the Marriage Law, that the divorce can be assessed falls within the court or if there are witnesses.

So if the husband so angry that says divorce, but if there are no witnesses still do not fall for divorce. Once the divorce difficult conditions. In religion also said this, there are people who cannot master himself, dark eyes that says divorce, divorce was considered not to fall. ( not valid)

But it's easy to go back again once during the waiting period. Because Allah wills so. Suppose someone has divorced his wife, and then he saw a smile to his wife and held his wife's hand, it is considered to refer to. Easy is not it? For God did not want a divorce. Again, divorce 2, were difficult conditions. But it is easy to see but very difficult to divorce. God give grace. "Maybe now you hate, hatred can be lost tomorrow". So God created something new in his heart. Oo, sorry why this first? Because God hate divorce.

That's also why. Calculate the waiting period. Habit in our society, the waiting period is often not counted. Her husband died, his wife did not want waiting period.

Calculate the waiting period. Examine in the calculation of their term. 

Even before the divorce occurs rift guidance Quran, Surah. An-Nisa (4), paragraph 35: "O ye (available in the community in a family) When you see a couple no signs of strife, quickly intervened, do not let". Sent someone from the family of a wife and a husband, discussing what could be done. ".. If it's two of which are still willing, Allah will give them a way to better". Sometimes spouses mutually prestige, but his heart still want to.

If indeed the two sides of the family is willing to reunite them, it could happen. God will give taufiq. The difficulty is that the family actually fanning or the fans. That is not true, we do not follow the guidance of the Qur'an. For if they are willing, God will give taufiq. God will match. Taufiq was a rapprochement. 

We often hear no guidance and no taufiq. Taufiq is a rapprochement between my will and God's will. God will adjust between them both. This should be undertaken so that we do not get divorced. I (pack Quraish) once said that marriage is woven by God with his words. The new guy lawful wedlock when using the word of God. The sentence of God was incredible, enormous, incredible regal.

The sentence of God was full of honesty, full of justice, can not be replaced. With the words of Allah, Prophet Isa was born without a father. With the words of Allah, the Prophet Yahya was born while his parents were very old. Word of Allah, the fruit of marriage.

God willed that marriage is eternal. As if people are divorced, cancel the sentence of God. But then again, if there is an urgent need, what can we do. 

So the Koran (Islam) does not prohibit divorce or does not close the door. But the divorce was an emergency door. We boarded the plane, there is an emergency exit. Should not the emergency exit? Please. For those who are often on a plane, never use the emergency exit? Never even not to. But the door is necessary. Because if there is no how? Keep up the emergency door. Divorce exactly that. It divorce in religious views.

If you're divorced, what then is the relationship that already divorced? Is hostile? Allah commanded in the Qur'an. Al-Baqarah (2) paragraph 229: "If it twice, then a chance of third or subsequent occasion there are only two, arrested by extending marriage in accordance with customs (right), or remove it with courtesy." What is compassion? What difference does it with kindness?

No name ihsan and fair. Fair is demanding all of our rights and give all people's rights. For example, Person A has a right to the B 100 thousand, then Person B could require 100 thousand no more and no less in the A. If the charity is demanding less from our rights and give more of the right people. I have the right to 100 thousand in the C, I demand only 90 thousand on the C. That Ihsan ( give charity)

I have the right to 100 thousand in the D, then the D gave me 110 thousand. It Ihsan. So divorce was fine. Do not necessarily divorced by saying "oo does he base this way, the base so". Not like that. Even suggests, "give him his rights over". Do not demand exceeds your rights, even should ihsan, demanded part, it was ruled for charity.

"... Do not forget the beautiful days ever passed". Well, there are services she right? Do not forget that. There were happy days, do not forget your happy days with him. This is God's guidance. Often people forget it's divorce, already bicker, bicker participating families. No, not so true. We were forced to divorce, but divorce is good.

If he re-consult, he demanded to be fair, but if the divorce, she claimed to be more than fair, that courtesy. So as if to say, we cut well, I do not forget your services. This religion, why is it like this? Again, because divorce is sometimes necessary. Let me give an example, we have children, we educated together, we live together, whether or not a character we? There is a carefree child, there are others. How similar pattern but the results are different?

Especially with another person, who lives raised by the other parent, so that the difference would be there. Sometimes there are differences that cannot be met. Already cultivated but still cannot meet. 

What can we do about it ? You have a character like that and your wife has another nature, and could not find it. Your mind could not meet with his mind. So in the end, husband and wife choose the course choose its own course anyway, but split amicably. But if you can still seek, rest assured that you definitely can see the origin would follow the guidance of religion. 

Question:

1. What about those who divorce, marriage and divorce?
We tolerate people who divorced once, so has experience. But if divorce, divorce was her name she did not know how to choose and she did not want to follow the religion. The marriage was not a trial. Get to know the candidates before advancing to marry. We are human and want to create a generation, we wanted to create a harmonious society.

2. It is stated that divorce was lawful but hated by God, whether divorced people also hated by Allah? Then divorce case, no children, any attempt to fund raise a child because her ex-husband did not want to give cost? 

People who divorce will be hated by God when they are not trying in advance to avoid divorce. As we do not always open the emergency door of the aircraft before the situation is urgent. So if God hates divorce oversimplify. Then, the child how? That problem does not occur if the divorce was amicable. The boy was not her mother, it was her father, took his father's name. So the father must pay child. If divorce is well, the former wife would still be friends, at least he considered other people. Other people just have to help him, let alone a former wife was the mother of the father of the child, she had to help. The problem is that divorce does not follow the religion. Divorced with conflicts, verbal abuse, take revenge. The same applies to the wife. If divorce is going to follow the religion, the husband would certainly give to his cost, the relationship will remain good, not only is the relationship of husband and wife again.

3. There was one family who have adopted children who are old enough besides there are five biological children. The new wife know that he is in touch not normal (men) with the adoptive child. His adopted son's wife cast out, but by her husband adopted son accommodated somewhere, so that the husband is still in touch with the adoptive child. Eventually his wife demanded a divorce because her husband did not want and still love to his wife, how about this?

What was done by the husband was strictly forbidden and damned by religion, it is clear that the wife does not agree, and indeed must not agree with her husband's habit. In my opinion, a very justifiable wife demanded a divorce. His case can be reported to the religious court. Although her divorce, I am afraid that is not normal marital relationship continues. Mother's attitude was very reasonable especially if it is to preserve the biological children in addition to maintaining her of her husband's bad influence it.

4. There was divorced because his wife cheating husband. But the husband still often came to the house of former wife and still claim the right home when his house is sold? 

Then come with a respectable husband, and nobody saw, it looks like the arrival of a guest. This is still within the boundaries of religion, lest alone together, because if alone can arise nonsense. So the relationship is still good. Problem house, the house of the husband or the wife? The house was the wife. There is a verse in the Quran that says QS. Ath-Divorces (65) paragraph 6: "Give them a place to stay." So exactly who are divorced, have to allow him to claim the house of her husband. Not the other way, the right wife, then the husband would ask. I might (pack Quraish) said he is obliged to set up a home for his wife divorced, do the opposite.

Conclusion:
1. Divorce is an abomination of God, should be avoided wherever possible.
2. Even if divorce is forced, then it does not mean that the former conjugal relationship became hostile relationship, but still a good relationship. Call each other and remembering the goodness, each mention of his services so that no turbidity between them or between their families.

And Allah knows best.