As a Muslim has the intention to review absolutely and
make sure our life as a husband always
obey the Commandments. Husband must be a leader that always lead his family to follow the faith of
God. If we do not obey the Commandments, that
means our promise (sahadah) which was confer by us is unacceptable by God Allah. Because it shown that we are not yet be a
honest believers. The promise must be followed by action to review obey all the
Commandments. In everyday life we need to obey the Commandments linked to the
field;
circumcision;
Should not do any illegal or disobey
activities. I often use the term to 5 Principles of Life. However by reality in
our daily life it is very difficult for us to review that we always adhere to the Commandments.
Except for those who are high degree of
faith and piety.
I still remember
the words of religious teacher some time ago. "Male person when been official married
has become a husband that actually receive a lot of responsibility,
His are responsible to ensure that his wife and Kids Understanding fully the
Islamic teach and faith, and must always be able to obey the faith and teach at
all times without fail. If not so husband is responsible and answerable to the Lord Allah
at hereafter and he will be sent to hell if the family which is under his
responsibility fail to follow the commandments.
" Is it
possible for me to be a responsible husband to keep all my family in line with
Islamic teach ?" This is a question that often exist in my mind as at first
married ever since.
" Han, when
your are married, your wife and your kids
must confirm adhere to religious teachings," my father told to me while we talk about the wedding
day one time ago.
"In sha
Allah". I am response with fully committed.
My late father
advice still stick to my hearts and soul. I swear to myself to ensure the
burden of leading my family to follow the Islamic faith and teach is always be
my priority objectives. especially about prayer. That is not compromise to
absent, everybody in the family must performed 5 times per day. Only with
syariah excuse can left the solat.
I myself must
lead by examples, I will ensure the 5 times prayer must be done on time
schedule by Islam. The leader by example must shown his commitment first and
after that he able to command others
under his controls.
“ Subhanallah, I
am as leader has to ensure myself to perform 5 times daily prayer with out
fail. That is a must to be a good and responsible husband” I always talk to
myself. This is the most important task as the husband and father. I being
given a responsibility by syariah law that the husband must able to educate and
coaching his family to be a good muslim and good citizen.
To the extend I
must lead and coaching my wife and kids to ensure all of us have to obey all
the religious teach and faith in everyday life activities. I must check and
monitor everyday to ensure the forbidden and disobedience will not happen
regarding our daily responsibility to Allah such as prayer 5 times, fasting one
month for Ramadan, paying zakat fitrah (personal zakat, paying income zakat,
and finally performed Hajj at Mecca once in our life.
While all the
bad attitude that been classified as HARAM ( the way to hell) must be totally
left over. If it happen with out control as we did the forbidden activities ,
we must immediately pray to Lord Allah asked for His forgiveness, taubah Nashua,
by pray and back to Allah for forgiveness and make an intension not to do again
the same mistake in the near future.
while the
circumcision is practiced should be as far as possible as giving alms, helping
others whose are distress, doing charity work for poor people and orphan.
A situation that
given a free choice to us to do or not to do, I always advice my wife and kids
try to accommodate the teach and take a decision to follow what been
experienced by our grand Ma and Pa which is given benefit to us. I will ensure
we be accept to that give good impact to
our life and give harmony relationship to other people.
Things that
Should be given to a crash whether to perform or otherwise such as to eat fish
and vegetable based dishes or to eat red
meat or white flash. It is free for us to take any decision what ever we like.
Things that advisedly not to do (makroh) priority for
us to leave or not to eat such as not advise to eat garlic when we are going to
mosque to perform prayer ( solat) . It’s also apply to smoker cigar that been
put lawly as makroh. Luckily I am not
the smoker. That is one of my special principle which is proud by my wife as we
start to know each other 36 years ago. Lately doctor confirm that cigarette is
bad to human health and it will lead to cause cancer to the smoker. I put my
personal aim not to smoke till the end of my life. InsyaAllah.
In keeping intention
to review compliance commandments hearts everyday life, we need to sufficient
knowledge of the law and order of
religion. To ensure this been compliance
we must update the knowledge and continuous learning must be done. If we have
the attitude not to study any more, that is the wrong attitude, because in the
real world, the development and improvement of our technology, knowledge and
skill it upgrading from time to time. We must be able to avoid the stigma of
stop learning to the senior citizen people, it is a great mistake, because the fact human life in the universe are very
dynamic to change forever. So it is
worth for us study everyday to comply to
the change need by the environment of change and it increased with time.
Try to look
around us everyday, internet tools Development and Communication Technology
leaps and bounds. Children and grandchildren in the future is extremely expose to internet
technology. So it is the time for every
husband to be expose with the latest development of communications technology.
Thus very important to be able our self to ease the way of communication with
the younger generation where as their
culture has been influenced to the life virtual borders less world,
I still
remember, my 4 years old grandson alert
me at one time,
"Tok Dad,
wait a minute. The computer is still loading". Grandson said when he saw
me try to punch key board.
“ Oops , how
stupid of me, the 4 years old grandson is more advance than his grand pa” that
the words come to my mind when been alert by grand son, for some time when I
visited my eldest daughter at Putrajaya.
"I'm ashamed, grandson has better
computer skill than me? " This is the reality of life, science that
incident I try my self to update the knowledge of every things that I think
useful for our daily life.
.
By doing that, I
am more confident to face the latest development of the world. This what been
talked by our be love Rasulullah SAW “ To day is better than yesterday, and
tomorrow must be better than today” this principle must be applied to
everything we did in our daily life. That is.
To ensure that I
can be a husband and father, I must always to
emulated Posted Wife And
Children, I am forced to increase religious knowledge every time. More, More,
More I is not coming back to school up bringing
religion. On the Primary school only
enrolled in public schools (1960-1966) and entered the stream English High
School for five years.
A shock like
that, I was lucky my father was graduate school of Islamic based study and he served as a religious teacher and also as Register of Marriage in the
District. My father teach in several mosques and madras. The life of such an
enabling environment I was grown up with
religious discipline, especially in
relation to the practices that are in demand Fardu (compulsory) Posted Islam.
"How many
Pleasure of God blessed to use every moment,
Lives Mercy, Mercy of Air, abundant water, health grace, mercy appetite and
much more, countless" father said
to the congregation in the mosque hears by audience at one night.
" we as a
husband who lives in His grace should thankful " continued the verse with
great enthusiasm, the audience just
nodding to sign a deal.
'God did not ask
to pay of His grace at all, the only thing we should do just pry and follow of
His Ordinance and exalt Him. Do all His commands and prohibitions to leave all.
"Dad explained Again.
The words that I
still remember to this day, although my father was gone, back to His Creator
over 15 Years Ago. Words of wisdom is what become my Life guidelines to worship
God for the life time.
My religious
knowledge which I was acquire through un formal education learning. My father
is the teacher whose guided me and always added the value of improvement my
Islamic knowledge. I gain my knowledge by discussing several issues such as
economic, politics and education etc.
I still remember
the discussion of government economic development plan one day.
" Our
government table the Five Years Economic
Development Plan to eradicate the poor”. I told father one night during my Hari
Raya vocation.
“ Impossible to
eradicate the poverty” my father response to me“ That statement is wrong, It is against the
nature of universe”. He try to convinced me,
“ Allah The Creator
create all thing in the universe are pairs, big verses small, rich verses poor,
happy verses sad, life verses death etc. .” Dad try to confine his word.
‘’ Be law of
nature, there will be a poor people from times to times, the poor definition is
relatively flexible”
“ If the person
whose stay in town, their household income RM 2,500.00 per month, is still
under poor low income, but if he stay at rural area, RM2,500.00 is include
under rich people, that the reality of life now days”. Father debate his point
like an economist. I just node my head to agree what father said.
“ further more
in the holy Quran, Allah stated that the poor is part of the society that should be the responsible of
rich to take care by giving income zakat”.
“ The correct
word should use be uses is To Reduce the
number of poor people," said father confidently as his word been support by me.
“ Your are
correct dad”. I try to support father talk.
The situation is
normal in our family when there is an issue. it look like my father always lead
the situation because he will put the proof of Quran verses, that I am gain my
knowledge in religious principle and faith. Out of these discussions make me
gain knowledge, especially about law and order of Islam.
Such a situation
does become a routine discussion when I returned to the village during University semester break. During the
discussion I'm more focused on academic
school of tough by arguments Economic and social sciences, while my father thoughts
more focused on religious law and order based on the Quran and Hadith. The discussions and exchange views on such
matters made me more matured and deeper in understanding faith, law and order
of Islam from time to time. Thus the informer education that educate me to know
batter about the faith and practiced of Islam in our life.
Such atmosphere
has gone for the last 15 years ago, It just a memorable when father was passed
away. I am very glad to my father whose always guided me on Islamic way of life
to get the pleasure of Lord Allah. Thanks Allah. I used to follow father style
in providing training and learning to
our Children and grandchildren till now.
To ensure our
children performance pray five time a
day, I will always remember them when there
is opportunity to communicate with my
sons and daughters.
“Have you perform your prayer?" words
come from my wife as once our child pass
over our bed room. Sometime the
opportunity to remind our kids when they comes to get some pocket money before they
went to school.
"This is
your pocket money boy, remember your 5 times prayer daily”. That the regular expressions by me or wife when ever we
dealing with kids. Thank God It’s positive effect to our family.
However, when all of them grown up, they began too busy
with their own business. They can made
their decision to perform their prayer accordingly. Either in the house of at
the mosque. I just follow up through SMS to refresh them.
As been taught
by Hadis Rasulullah SAW, “ Be friends with your children when their age is 18
year and above..” it is advisable to be friend and it seem the most effective
way to educate our child.
“ Dad wishes
many-many thanks to all, your performance so far are good” I talked as opening speech during our family
meeting one day.
“ Thanks for
been a good and obey to Islamic faith and law at all times. So far so good,
That practice should permanently be continuous in our life if we put an
intention to be good Muslim”. I elaborate more regarding our objective and goal
in the life to get pleasure and pleasant by Allah, that we will be reward with
haven Jannah in the hereafter.
“ Now dad open
the discussion to all, you can put a comment to dad and mom. Regarding our
responsibility as parents”. I open our meeting to all the members.
“ I am personally and represent all my
brothers, sisters and all our kid, to wishes thousand thanks to Dad and Mom,
that both of you take care for us”. Along, my eldest daughter spoke as
representative of all.
“Thank you "
I reply.
“ Dad and mom
wishes many-many thanks to all of your that able to be a good person whose obey
the law and order of Lord Allah in everyday life”.
“ Thanks God
whose bless our doa”.’ “ Both of us are very happy with all of your performance
last year”.
Thank God, the
God Who gives guidance to me be
consistent to obey God's commandments, which was adopted by my wife and
children.
As we were
marriage till now day, I never and ever hit my wife, and also we never facing
the serious crisis, our great loyal lover evergreen and lasting for more 35
years. Allahamdulillah with God pleasure
we manage to entertain our sincerity and
loyalty love. Our loving relationship
of husband and wife is always smoldering and happiness is always fresh.
The most important factor that to sustain our loyal lover due to intention been
put by me as husband to take fully responsibility to please Allah both in this
world and hereafter. Maybe God has guided us to avoid any serious differences
Intent to our family and we most always eager to obey the Commandments of God.
As so when I
heard the situation where husband abuse cruelly to his wife, I cannot imagine
what kind of man
That can be as
such rude and brutally hit the wife when there is a differences of ideas and
tough. Event tough the wife is husband partner to release his tension and
sharing the distress. The person who entertain his sex need and emotionally
places of stress release.
It is un fair
for a small problem, the husband hammered his wife in such a way. Such action is extremely again the teach by Rasulullah SAW. The Prophet is the
husband of the very gentle with all
Wife. If the husband hit his wife for what ever reason, Islam was set the
prescribed procedure. Thus who brutally
hit his wife is due to the lack of religious knowledge and the person that did
not obey the law and order of Islam.
In addition to
prayer, reading the Koran every day has become a routine for me and my wife, our
kid frequently read when they feel free. This practices is one of the way to
regain the peaceful mind and soul. The impact of recite the Quran it will be a
factor of healing process for most of the pain we suffer and also will made the
reciter emotionally feel fresh and calm. Quran reciter which focus to the Quran
reading procedure will be part of process to exercise the brain and our soul
focus and the process is to be a good for brain development, some time it been
call as the brain tonic. Beside the Quran also to a good healing for most of
the pain in human body.
To help my wife
be influent reading the Quran, I bought the new electronic technology called “
Quran Pen reader” it is very simple to use just pointing the pen needle to the
page of Quran, It is automatically recite the Quran by the world best reciter
of Masjid Al Haram Mecca. By using this technology it is easy for us to furbish and made correction of our
reading style.
Thank God that
He has granted Intention four our family to be consistently recite of Quran in
our daily life.
Now I am able to read fluently. I am also hire a ladies
Quran Reading Teacher to come to my house to teach my wife and all the children.
The Quran Reading classes. That bee schedule for 3 days in a week. The class
begin after night prayer. The habit of reading Quran daily will be a good
source to release our tension, some time ago I was read an articles regarding
the healing or Quran, it is true, my wife after she practices reading Quran as
a consistent her daily activity it seen the healing process of her pain be a
proven the she was better than before. Her mind set and way of thinking to the
hope of her future world is more positive as compare as before, at the early
stage of stroke she is more inferior
and depress.
As a husband it is a must to gain the skills of
family management and caring, beside
that the husband also need to manage the
family financial and economics. We also need careful plan according priority
needs by the family and used the money accordingly to the needs and priority. If we do not proper plan, possibly monthly income cannot coupe the monthly spent. Thus will be a problem of
cash flow and the end of the month we have to borrow form other people. Thus
the situation will be trap be the Money Lender (Along) whose lend the money
with high interest rate. The was is forbidden by Islam.
"O God as
your servant . I begged forgiveness and
repent in differences All errors and omissions that violate the command thee.
Thou art the Oft-Returning, Most Forgiving." Amin Ya Rabil Alamin
Tips:
1.
Basic knowledge of religion is essential to the husband as head of the family, because it will be
used to review educate wife and children on the wright path of Allah law and order. To be a husband is
actually your are committed to take responsible of your wife and family. Any
failure the husband will be questioned
in the Hereafter. So to be a best
husband, we have to acquire more knowledge of Islamic faith, law dan order to
ensure our family can be guided accordingly and inline with the Islamic tough
that will bring our family a success In the current world and the day
hereafter. Insya Allah.
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