LOVE
TILL HEAVAN
From the author
The story is written
in this book is based on my experienced in dealing with allegations of God to
take care of and maintain my wife destined paralyzed side of the body after
brain surgery on 2 Mac 2001. Surgery is
performed by an expert doctor neurosurgeon is the only choice that existed at
that time to save my wife life after she
was in a coma for two days due to bleeding in the brain. The cases happen to my wife is related to the genetic that may
happen to a ratio of 100 thousand to150
thousand peoples one person who
experienced this disease. The medical term of the case is " arteriovenous malformation
Venous" (AVM).
Due to the commitment
of our love, we were marriage on August 21, 1980, and leave happily
as husband and wife for the period of 20 years. As the time goes on and
the growth of our seven kids ( four sons and three daughters healthy and peacefully. God try to test our fortunate love by giving
the tragic incident when my lovely wife was suddenly coma for 2 days due to
bleeding in the brain on March 2, 2001 may be to test our love and
relationship.
This tragic incident
began after my wife underwent neurosurgeon to recover her from coma nearly
three days, Alhamdulillah thanks to God. Nevertheless she recover from coma,
but she was paralysis of the right arm and leg. Anyhow myself and our children Alhamdulillah to Almighty Allah for having to save the life of
my wife. She was able to survive in this world
up to the present day. Our child can still see the faces of their mother
and so also our grandchildren can still fond of "Tokma" from time to time. Especially when it's
Eid-Fitr and Eid al-Adha our house was noisy with the laughter of children and
grandchildren. Really happy, we are thankful for Thy mercy of God.
Thanksgiving is why I
have promised myself to take care of my
wife forever, to enable the
survival and she can continue to give love to our children and the most important thing for
me is to prove the honesty of our love. and to
take care of our youngest daughter whose
at the time is 4 years old. At that age
a children who do not really understand anything problematic situations and
she need fully care and love from her mother until she grow up perfectly and able to be independent.
For this reason I am
determined to give time and fully commit the best possible to take care for my
wife For the benefit of our children and
families. I am willing to do everything in order to take care of my disable wife
during the day, without neglecting my role as head of the family and also as a
senior manager in a private company. While keeping the needs of my wife and
children at home. I have used all the knowledge and skill of management such as
time management, coaching and leadership skill, stress management, self
motivation and economics and religious
knowledge in order to achieve my ambition to be the leader of the family
and avoid losing in the middle of the
street. Oh Allah! Give the dedication of
mentally and physically effort to me so that I am willing to continue serving
my family to full fill my obligation to be a good husband and parent.
Alhamduillah thanks
God has given guidance to me so that I
able to keep consistent dedicated effort to enable me acted as "housemaid"
by doing all the house maid task to take care of my disable wife and also as caregiver to two elderly mothers.
While in office as a senior manager responsible for 500 staff..
Since I am so committed
with the intention of our holy love as been mentioned above, and also due to my commitment to be the best head of
the family as recommended by my faith- Islam.
As the time goes on, without any sense of tired or frustrated , myself
manage to undergo all the challenges and
doom for 15 years. Thank God giving to
me with patience and fully commit sense of responsibility, my wife situation has
improved a lot achieving nearly 90 %
recovery back to normal situation. Maybe
all this is because God has given
guidance to his. When thought back to how I was able to do all this, I myself
sometimes do not even think it would be feasible. However, the atmosphere and
time has proved that Allah the Almighty, Allah Knowing and Allah full or
Rahmmah, will not give any calamity or test to
His servants except he was able to deal with it.
".........Allahuuakbar…
As a sign of gratitude
that I can not describe in words and in writing to the grace of God to me is
human dwarf, so as to make myself as a man of patience, perseverance and
sincerity to resume the spell of love with my wife ever since we first met
until our first get married and have children.
and to continue to foster love
and affection of our holy to this day ...... Thank God. Now my wife and
I have reached the age of senior citizens (62 years and my wife of 57 years).
I personally did not
expect my personal able to fulfill all the responsibility given to me to take
care of paralyzed wife of almost 15 years, without feeling bored and
tired, even feeling is panting and want to continue to serve for the pure love
of our continuing and evergreen romantic
relationship. Some time my personal feeling try to ask myself how I can do all
this with a resolute heart, is simply God has bestowed upon me patience, thank
God. When the dwarfs themselves are being guided by Him to be a human patient,
and also opened the door of the heart to continue to serve with great patience
to have been given to understand that what happened to my wife and me was the
will of Allah to test His servants.
"Only those who
are patient who paid back their reward without limit." (Az-Zumar: 10)
Exactly His word which
means "God with those who are patient." Is proven to me.
Therefore with low
self I feel is important to share the same experience with our friends all the sweet
and bitter situation, we both went through to facilitate them facing the
challenges with patience and their fortunate love evergreen till to heaven
...... God willing. May story can be shared by the community as a role model or
border, especially to be husband and wife. It also may be used as the boundary
line of the spouse of a partner whose facing a chronic disease that requires
total care every day. Hopefully we've been through this joy can be made in the
guidelines and any weaknesses and imperfections that we have gone through it
can also be used as a border so our friends will not be abandoned to the problem or pain
that we went through. Hopefully the story about the vagaries of life we experienced
this can be used as my contribution
to society. Happy reading.
Oh Allah give guidance to me go ahead by a run to continue “Istikomah”
responsibility by being a husband and a father to my children. And thou forsake
me and be proud of myself ripple nature,
because the ego and proudness of oneself
will prevent to enter to your heaven. Ameen.
NIK RAIHAN
Kota Bharu,
Kelantan, Malaysia.
1 September
2015.
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