intemate attiquet as guided by Islam.

Brothers and sisters who are blessed by Allah in Islam, indeed, jima’( fuck) (sex spouse) is one of the important things to get the attention of Islam, and Islam has set rules and etiquette, manners, so that human nature does not like animals who have no sense , Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala has glorified man upon whom God created, as he says:

 

"And indeed We have honored the children of Adam and carried them on land and sea; given them for sustenance things good and we preferred them above many of those whom We have created." (QS. Al -Israa ': 70)

And Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala has instilled in every man wishes biological (sexual) and made ​​way for the man who syar'i to menuanaikan or sexual desires of that channel, so that everything is done in accordance with the law and to worship. Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala has set the rules and ethics of the channel sexual desire (jima '), and in between the ethics that must be considered are as follows:

Sincere intentions of Allah.

That is the sole intention of devotion for God in acts jima ', he has intended to intimate' to keep himself and his family (his wife) of things that are forbidden (adultery), and also in order to reproduce offspring (Muslims) , Allah 's Apostle was to motivate people to get married and he 's Apostle said  that he was proud of the large number of her on that day.

And you dear married couples, the reward is the intimate relationship that you do when you straighten your intention. From Abu Dhar radi 'anhu that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said:

(In a few of you charity) - any of the group to his family - said: O Messenger of Allah, when one of us desire will he have some reward for that? He said peace be upon him: (Do you see if placed in the no man's land, whether it button? So if he does it in a halal had a wage) Narrated by Muslim

"And in the genital one of you is charity."  It mean in jima'nya (sex) to wife- They (the Companions) said: "O Messenger of Allah! Does any one of us went to his family (discharge syahwatnya / jima ') and he rewarded? " The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam berabda: "Is not that when he fulfilled (jima ') in a forbidden sin he will get?" And so even if he fulfilled in a lawful (wives) then he will get the reward. " (Narrated by Muslim).

It was incredible priorities, we can meet the wishes of physical  and we still get a reward.

Flirt-flattery and warm up before jima '

Warm up as heating bill as a joke before having sexual relations. Many a husband who ignores this setting flirtation, especially for those who are still   young. Greed male sexual desire, cause her to have sex with hasty without regard to the needs of his partner.

Usually women  quite a long time to raise the desire of sex. Therefore fore play  flattery is a way of allowing feelings of sexual desire is equated with the desire wife sex  husband. When both in peak condition only then will enjoy the pleasure of sexual relations with and affect the intimate relationship of husband and wife all the time.

When the  husband immediately berjima 'without foreplay, may be he was completing his lust while his wife has not reached the climax or not get it.

Ibn Taymiyya rahimahullah : "It is recommended (sunnah) to a man fondling his wife before committing jima 'to arise orgasm wife, and he had the pleasure felt like her husband. And it was narrated from 'Umar bin' Abdul 'Aziz rahimahullah that he said: "Do not TO SAVE 'wife, unless she (wife) have earned an orgasm as you can get, so you do not finish ahead of him jima'nya (meaning you get pleasure while the wife is not).

Including forms of flattery and persuasion are kissing, playing chest (breast), and the skin in contact with skin. Allah 's Apostle before kissing his wife before jima '. And he 's Apostle said to Jabir radi 'anhu when he married the widow:

"Could a virgin players and the players." (Narrated by sheikhs), and Muslim "Tdhagha and Tdhagk"

"Why did not the girl (whom you marry) so that you can caressing her and she mencumbumu?" (HR. Biukhari and Muslim

Membaca do’a sebelum jima’

Prayers taught by the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam before Jima 'is as follows:

(In the name of God, God spared us the devil and the devil side what Rozktna)

"Bismillah (in the name of God), Ya Allah protect us from Satan and keep Satan from what you have provided to us (children)."

Allah 's Apostle said:

(If someone if he wants to come his family said: In the name of God, God spared us the devil, and the devil side what Rozktna. It is estimated that between them was born in it does not matter never demon) Bukhari and Muslim

"Surely if someone want intercourse with his wife (jima ') said:" (Prayer at the top) so when  for both  of a child in that relationship (jima') then the devil would not bother him forever "(Bukhari and Muslim HR.al ).

Gaelic place allowed:

Gaelic wife at a given vulva (genital / vaginal), and allowed to performed sex  from any direction is important in his genitals. Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala says:

(Bring your wives you plow tillage and I if you like) (Al-Baqarah: 223)

"Your wives are (as) the soil where you grow crops, so go to the land where farming anus or how you will .." (QS. Al-Baqarah: 223)

From Jabir radi 'anhu said: "Once the Jews say: 'If a man with his wife in her vagina from behind, the child (if born) will be cross-eyed! Then came the word of God:

(Bring your wives you plow tillage and I if you like)

"Your wives are (as) the soil where you grow crops, so go to the land where farming anus or how you will .." (QS. Al-Baqarah: 223)

Then the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said:

(Future and housekeeper if it was that in the vagina) Narrated by Al-Bukhari and Muslim.

"From the front or the back (can do) when it was on his cock" (HR.al-Bukhari and Muslim)

The intercourse with his wife in the anus then it is an act that is forbidden, can not be done, and violate human fithrah set by Allah. Allah 's Apostle said:

(From or menstruating woman came in her rectum or soothsayer and believes what he says, has disbelieved in what was revealed to Muhammad) Narrated by Abu Dawood

"Whoever mix (jima ') woman (wife) menstruation or in the anus or visit shamans allowing the speech he disbelieved in what was revealed to Muhammad sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam "(HR. Abu Dawud)

And the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said:

(Cursed be he who comes in the women Mhahhn). Narrated by Ibn Uday and horses in wedding etiquette.

"Curse the man who screwed her in his anus" (HR. Ibn 'Adi mercy and validated by al-Albanian rahimahullah in the book Adabuz Zifaf)

Intimate Relations ways:

Best position in sex is men and women are above under, Imam Ibn Qoyyim rahimahullah said in Zaadul Ma'ad: "And the position jima 'best was a man above woman and fuck her after fondling and kissing. And because of the position like this woman called mattress (for her husband), as the words of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam: "Children are a firasy / mattress (female)" And this is the perfection of male leadership of women, as the word of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta' ala:

(Men are the protectors on women)

"Men are the protectors and maintainers of women." (Qur'an, An-Nisa ') 

And Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala says:

(Dress you as you wear them)

"They (the women / wives) are raiment for you and ye are raiment for them. " (QS. Al-Baqarah: 187)

And the worst position in sex is a woman at the top of the male and sex through the back (in that position), and it the best position that has become human nature that God ordained for men and women, even for this type of male and women. And in that position the side effect are, among others, semen of men tough it out entirely, and sometimes the rest of the semen was left behind in the body and ultimately endanger for health. And also difficult to accommodate a woman's womb semen of male babies to be created from it, in a position like that. And women are the objects of either character or syar'i, then when he became the subject (actor), he has violated the law and tabi'atnya truth "(summary of Zaadul Ma'ad)

Do not Tell Behavior in Bed:

Half of the husband thinks the story while in bed can be announced to a friend with an excuse to show the awesomeness. Even among women there who broke the news to the children. And there is no doubt that it is forbidden and the culprit is the worst of human behavior. . Abu Sa'id al-Khudry radi 'anhu narrated that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said:

(The point of the people of God when the status of the Day of Resurrection man leads to his wife, and then lead him publish her secret) Narrated by Muslim.

"Surely the worst of the human position in the sight of Allah on the Day of Judgment is a man who with his wife plainly he confided (jima 'is)" (Muslim)

Imam an-Nawawi rahimahullah said: "In this hadith there is a ban on disseminating the man what happened between him and his wife be jima ', and tells in detail about it and what happened to women in the incident (jima') in the form of speech (sigh) and the other acts as well. The mere mention of the word jima ', when there is no necessity in it faidah and then it is disliked because contrary to muru'ah (self-respect). And the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said:

مَنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ فَلْيَقُلْ خَيْرًا أَوْ لِيَصْمُتْ .

"Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day let him say good or (if unable to) silence."

And when there is no need or interest to discuss, such as the refusal to deny the husband of wife, or the wife accuses the husband is not able jima '(impotence) etc then this is not makrooh. As the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam : "It was me and this guy (his wife) have done so" And he also said: "Do you have sex." And Allaah knows best. Finish the priest Nawawi.

Recommended for ablution when you want to repeat jima '

From Abu Sa'id al-Khudri radi 'anhu said, the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said:

(If any of you came his family, then he wanted to come back penis,) Narrated by Muslim

"When one of you with his wife (jima '), then he would repeat the berwudhulah" (HR.Muslim)

Mandatory ghusl after jima '

But when it happens between two pubic meetings (though not out semen), or semen will be mandatory for the ghusl, as the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam :

(If exceeded circumcised) In the novel: (Miss circumcised) I shall wash) Narrated by Muslim

"When genitalia (male)goes to genitals (women)" and in another narration: "genital touching genitals then a bath." (HR.Muslim)

And the words of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam :

"Water is for water," narrated by Muslim.

"Indeed, water (ghusl) was caused by water (out semen)" (Reported by Muslim).

Given the flexibility:

Who shall be allowed to perform the ghusl to sleep and delay its time until he got up to pray Fajr or the other.

Anyone who wants to sleep (in the state of impurity) sunnah (tradition muakakad) for ablution before sleep, as the hadeeth of 'Umar radi 'anhu that he asked the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam : "What can one of us slept in a state of impurity? " Then the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said:

(Yes, willing and ablution) Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan

"Yes, and if you want him to perform ablutions" (Reported by Ibn Hibbaan) 

Avoid jima 'when the wife of menstruation:

Not allowed intercourse with his wife when she is menstruating, as the word of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala :

(And they ask you about menstruation is less harm Vaatzloa women in menstruation Tqrboehn not even Ithern If Ttehrn Votohn of where God has commanded you, God loves those who repent and loves those who purify themselves) (Al-Baqarah: 222)

"They ask you about menstruation. Say: 'It is a shit ". Therefore keep aloof from the women during menstruation; and do not approach them until they are clean. When they have purified themselves, ye may approach them in place Allah has commanded you. Surely Allah loves those who repent and loves those who purify themselves. " (QS. Al-Baqarah: 222)

Penalties for those who do

For anyone who with his wife's menstrual obliged to give alms with a single dinar or half a dinar, as it has been defined (no history) of Allah 's Apostle , when he answered a question someone asked about it.

Benefit:

Allowed to have fun with the wife provided it is not in her vaginal menstruation, as the hadith of 'Aisha radi 'anha said:

The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him orders if one of us was menstruating that Ttzer then Adhadjaha her husband. agreed upon.

"Once Allah 's Apostle sent for any one of us (women), when we menstruation to wear gloves and mixes her husband. "(Mutaffaq upon)

Note Wife Emotional condition before jima '

Look at your wife's emotional atmosphere, he might be less keen to forge jima 'because he was tired, unwell or other things that make it not interested. If passed also the will jima 'husband and wife are not interested, cause the wife will feel been forced  and this gives a bad emotional relationship. If continuous nature cause hatred and no fun for Jima '.

Frequency Jima 'ability should be adapted to the pair:

Frequency to do jima 'within a certain time as a day, week or month. Must be adapted to the health condition and ability to couple the pair. If too often do jima  side effect can also bring to your partner, then talk to get the appropriate period. Husband and wife should be mutual understanding of each sex needs.

Do not ego:

A mandatory for husbands to satisfy the desires of his wife, and he should not have intercourse climax  activities before his wife gets satisfaction. If his wife can slow a peak sex her then husband must be clever and have the knowledge to find places that will speed up sex desire of his wife as tits breasts and so on. Thus making out foreplay before intercourse is highly recommended for Board of satisfaction sex need to catch  same peak between husband and wife.

Do not fantasize about other people:

Not for a man to fantasize about other women while berjima 'with his wife, was  also forbidden for the wife to do so. If such practices do will minimize the impact of the love and affection of the spouses. Because if imagine  other couples during jima 'no loving relationship of husband and wife. Because each with their own imagination. While peak jima 'highly effective if both can enjoy.

'Azl allowed to subside partner:

This opinion was selected by the Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah rahimahullah , may postulate that used by her is the hadith of Jabir radhiyallahu'anhuma , bahwasanay he said:

We isolate the time of the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him that reached the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him did not Anhena. Bukhari and Muslim .

"When we did 'Azl the time of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam , then it is up to Allah 's Apostle and he did not forbid it. "(HR. Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Meaning 'Azl is a man pull out his cock from her genitals (when intercourse) before him ejaculate, then he pulled out his semen. With the aim of getting children to distance. But if he has not yet had children this is not recommended.

Away from the child when having sex:

In case the child so that the manners Jima 'is moving away from them, and avoid words that reek of romance in front of them, and are not exempt from this, except that it has not understood this problem to the extent that young children under 3 years of age , And it was narrated from Ibn 'Umar radi 'anhuma when he wanted berjima 'he released the children who are breast-feeding (of the place) 

Wallahu'alam.