Often joking and kidding with wife

12. Often joking and kidding with wife

For couples who have just marriage  is common to use humor among husband and his wife, who's known they can recognize the intrinsic in each other, to recognize the sincerity of the outward and inward. Much more still in the festive  mood  and the excitement of a honeymoon, all sweet sheer, even smell the fragrance all to be sweet and fairly happy,

Jokes atmosphere between husband and wife should be on left at any time, since it is not only the way of the Prophet Muhammad SAW as well as to maintain the splendor of love and affection of husband and wife. For that we need to emulate Prophet Muhammad SAW to continue maintaining  cheerful and joking environment.

We need to imitate the behavior of the prophet's life, good behavior towards his wife or son in getting  guidelines most   appropriate for intercourse and mingling with  wife and  family. 

In the mix and treat the wives of the Prophet, the Prophet always respect and care for the feelings of his wives more than husbands of others. One time when the Prophet SAW  would perform the mid night prayer, he approached his wife Aisha until she said: In the middle of the night he came up to me and when the skin comes in contact with skin he whispered, "O Aisha, allow me to serve the Lord."

We imagine how great tribute to the Prophet to his wife when he was about to perform the mid night prayer, he first requested permission to his wife in the middle of the night, when his wife needs it. On that Allah's permission reflected the love and respect of his wife.

Prophet is a figure very patient in treating his wife. This is apparent when one day there one of his wives came to bring food to be sent to the Prophet who was living in the house of Aisha. Aisha deliberately dropped the shipment of food was up to the plate broke and the food fell out laughing. Prophet simply said, "O Aisha, kifarah ( punishment)  is to replace the food with the same food."

Allah denounced husbands who beat their wives until Allah said, "I wonder husbands who tortured his wife when he is fit tortured by Allah SWT . "

The Prophet also condemned the humiliating husbands their wives do not appreciate it, not to talk to him, and did not consider his wife in making decisions. The Prophet said, "There will never glorify wife unless honorable man and would never insult the wife of a man except contempt." So let us strive to be noble husband who put his wife in a place of honor.

Intimacy is an important partner to maintain the harmony of the family and the Messenger of Allah has pointed out that intimacy with his wives.

He mostly joking with his wife. One day came Saodah (one of the wives of the Prophet SAW) to the house of Aisha. Then the Prophet sat in between she and Saodah and put his foot on their laps. When she invited Saodah to  eat, he rejected as not in the mood. Then she said:

"(By Allah), or I'll eat your face is dirty."         

Saodah refused, saying: "I will not eat."

Then she took the food and rubbed into the face Saodah. Prophet laugh. Then Allah sent Saodah returned the dirty face of Aisha. After Saodah dirty face of Aisha, the Prophet continued to laugh. (An-Nasai'e, Ibn Abi Dunya)

This story is an amusement Prophet with his wives. Prophet Muhammad SAW had also persuaded Ayesha to get rid of anger she intentionally holding his nose as in the history of Sunni.

So romantic marriage of the Prophet Muhammad. Maybe this is the secret of true love which remains to the end of life of the Prophet Muhammad SAW. Chatting, joking, caressing and touching.

Behavior is always mingling, humor and a touch of affection with my  wife is a practice that has been adopted  since the start of our marriage until now.  This is like as an attempt to AGENT friendly relationship and our love.

Normally I would do this every night before we go to sleep, usually I will tell you to give a warm atmosphere to the wife, sometimes I praised the beauty of my wife,

"Darling you look beautiful tonight. Younger than yesterday, "I teased my  wife.

"What's up, kidding Bang ni, praise too much lol " wife opened her mouth and pinch my thigh nest.

"I am not joke, I am serious darling," I response.

"Heeeh, this fin, not satisfied, satisfied". The wife answered as she held my hand tightly

And then will be followed by a warm hug. This action will cause my wife to become more loving and always loved to her  husband. Once in a while I make a joke as humorous stories as a kid before,   to   give birth to his wife noticed cheerful.

I did  that the act of  hugging  to  my  wife  as regularly act  because I've read a medical article that says if we embrace our wife with passion of love will cause reactivate a  hormone that can strengthen a person's immune and able to avoid  from being infected by the disease. Beside that  the arms will cause increased longevity 5 minutes with the permission of Allah.

Jokes between husband and wife is a Sunnah, the Prophet once bet a race with his wife   Siti Assia.

For me the most quality time with the wife by hugging on the bed  when I  with  my wife is getting ready to sleep for the night. This time we have set the target to sleep well, and neither of us are accompanied by  beloved wife. Therefore action joking and mingling with  wife before going to sleep will make our mind calm and can sleep well. Thus will gain a quality sleep for the whole night.

If we sleep with sweat and emotional atmosphere of conjugal love, it will make us sleep with peace and joy. Cheerful condition  when we wanted to sleep, followed by a reading of Bismillah, the verses of the Quran and prayer accompanied by sleep. God willing, we will be a sleep with  quality sleep, when we wake up tomorrow morning to taste the freshness of the infinite body.

Tips:

1.      Hold jokes between husband and wife can reduce stress between them. Jokes will create an environment that is carefree and cheerful family. The fun atmosphere will give a situation of good happy relationship of husband and wife and so on will be carried away to the children. Cheerful environment will effect the aura of the all family who lives in the house.

2.      Joking  between husband and wife is the one claimed by the Islamic sunnah. The act jokes that can produce a cheerful atmosphere and love between husband and wife. Ties will increase inner strength when followed with jokes every time.

3.      Joking  with spouses if done during the time of going to bed will allow us to sleep a sleep quality because it starts with feeling happy and cheerful time to sleep. Quality sleep will allow the energy AGENT welcomed by members of the body during our sleep will be better. When we woke up the next day will be able to feel the intense freshness.

4. Person who always practices joking and kidding will live with happy and less stress, thus habit will be effect personal health and will be longer life and will be please by everybody. Happy go lucky person.

5. After my wife was attack by stroke in 2001. It seen that the habit of kidding and joking with spouse is a  good habit that can release the stress and  depression of stroke patient and care giver. By joking and kidding some time the relationship between stroke patient and care giver can be use as tool to re position their relationship when there is a sign of  miss understanding between care giver and stroke recover regarding certain issue. What I am doing by repeating the kidding that was happen before, then my wife will recalled back our sweet time and she start to slow down her disappointed and after some time our relationship back to normal.