Seeking to please God in our daily life as marriage couple.

 Praise be to Allah, Peace and Blessings be upon Prophet Muhammad  S.A.W. and his companions R.A.

A marriage built on the basis of all the happiness in the surf boat life in this world and hereafter. The ultimate goal of marriage is a relationship that is built on this earth can be forwarded up to heaven. It sounds pretty simple, but very complicated and challenging journey.

When two couples united in a marriage, it has increased the responsibilities that have to be borne more than the current single week. That is the sole responsibility of the partner. Failure to exercise this responsibility will result in one spouse is a colossal catastrophe reserve in the hereafter and will be sentence to the hell.

Too much if you want to be the responsibility. Supposedly it will be a book and can not be satisfied with just reading the article, which is very limited knowledge. But the Malay saying goes, "No cane root was useful". The benefits will only be obtained when we practice all the knowledge that we know. Not the quantity of knowledge that is required, otherwise the quality. Grace and help of God will only attend to those who are with righteousness and good deeds rather than by itself. That is, Allah will be with mankind whose to be compassionate, muttaqin (taqwa), righteous (doing good) and so on. This personal habit resulting from the practice of self-righteousness as solemn prayers, practice circumcision, studying and so on. Therefore, we never find the verse "Allah is with those who pray, fast, give alms, etc.," but God will be with gift the personal appearance  righteousness that is inside.

Among the most important factor is the observance of domestic harmony. Radiollah Ali once said, "If a wife is to obey her husband, then one foot has stepped into the heavens. The other will step up if he did keep the commandments. " In this case, the second submission must be made of obedience to God and obedience to the husband.

In the event that adherence to the commandments, is not much different whether the woman becoming the wife or unmarried. A woman still needs to implement the law as cover themselves, dignity, perform rituals and practices of circumcision and so on. But, when a woman was considered a wife's status, the most common practice circumcision does, he will have to adjust to the situation so as not to collide with the wishes of her husband with other words she has to please her husband desire and need.

A woman should ask her husband's permission if you want to perform fasting (sunnah) . Feared would interfere with his responsibilities towards her husband than avoid misunderstandings that would threaten the harmony of the household. Circumcision practices such as prayer, reading the Koran and so can be done when all the household responsibility has been completed. This is because a wife should be prepared any time required to serve her husband.

Regarding obedience to the husband, it just covers the all aspect of life not violate Islamic law. If the husband told to do illegal things, then it is not obliged to obey even haraam to cooperate. The Prophet S.A.W. said, "There is no obedience to the creature in disobedience to God's doing." One thing that needs to be explored and explained here, a lot of things change according to circumstances. For example, in the case of obeying the husband, although originally the law to do something that is a must, but if requested by her husband, then she has turned into a must. If there is no reason to make calls syar'ie wife to obey her husband's request, then the wife is going to bear the blame.

For example, cooking and washing is not the responsibility of a wife, but if requested by the husband and he has the responsibility for her in carrying out her husband's request. In this case, the husband and wife can discuss whether to tolerate the conduct of rotating assignments, or even hire a maid, etc. If there is no valid excuse apa2, for example, the wife is a housewife and a healthy body, then it is obligatory for the wife to obey her husband's request. Conversely, if the wife works or have health problems, it is necessary to talk to the husband to husband not misunderstand and cause of sin to a wife who refuses to do so.

The husband is the head of the household. When the wife is the manager who manages the household according to the needs and desires of her husband. No matter what their social status, did not prevent the wife to respect and fulfill the right accordingly.  Understanding of marriage will only exist when the husband and wife understand and fulfill the one right  against the couple. The right is more important for a wife to obey her husband is. Without obedience, then understanding can not exist.

When a woman realizes the power of her husband as head of the family, respect for self and pleasure will exist. By the nature of this marriage to wife will shape the way that pleases God.

The Prophet S.A.W. said, "O women! Charity because I have seen the woman is the most crowded of the Fire. "When asked why they become the dwellers of the public, he said," You're a lot of cursing and are ungrateful to your husbands and your husband. "

Humble heart in order to obey her husband. Do we put the ego in it should not be. Too many divorce cases are caused by a wife who is too clever to refer to her husband. Even the husband is seen as useless junk.

There also are embarrassed with the social status of husband who worked and underpaid. As a result of underestimating her own husband, the wife has to find a way out by having an affair with another man. Cursing her own husband has become common among women. Even shamelessly tell the husband and wife to all friends cloth. The family institution has become more fragile.

The husband also only be able to pack and pack a nod to his wife's request. As a result, instead of husband and wife the husband's guiding hand has been led by the nose by his wife.    Any wife order totally  accepted without suspicion and questioning. No one has a bit of suspicion, as it will create care attitude and not take for granted the couple. Confidence in total only eligible to Allah and His Prophet S.A.W and not to others.

It should be viewed with one wife are friends. If his friend had a bad attitude, so far as possible to advise the wife to stay away. This is because the friend with a bad attitude will affect her friend, either directly or indirectly.

In the era of globalization, the very need of transparency in the relationship. Too much cheating that occurs even in their own homes. A wife who allegedly was righteous and did not leave the house, maybe do things quite devastating in their own homes. Too many porn picture featuring women veiled taken in the bedroom, when their husband to give to his mistress. Originally simply a virtual chat friends, however, due to the inverse relationship that accompanied bad intentions, then the result is very bad. They cant achieve  their sex requirement .

All issues must be resolved. Stay only we want to do it or not. The world's problems will be solved with the next practice. We need to instil confidence in the practice of religion itself. The Prophet said, "The world was created for you and you were created for eternity." Religious practices conducted with sincerity and confidence will guarantee success for us in this world and hereafter.

A husband is obliged to ensure the religious level in marriage. The first person to be educated with no religion other than his own wife. When the wife was practicing with confidence and sincerity, then surely anak2 will be educated to religion and good morals. As a result of a relationship that is founded by religious beliefs of the family makes it overflows with mercy and blessings of Allah Almighty will pose sustenance, all the problems will be solved and every day will be filled with compassion and love. Happy living will be accomplish.

May Allah chose us to continue to be above way.

Wallahua'lam.