According to Islam, a wife has the right to subsistence and adequate
maintenance from her husband. Obvious by the word of God says, "Men are the maintainers of women
because Allah has made some of them to excel others and because they spend out
of their property ; the good women are therefore obedient, guarding the unseen
as Allah has guarded; and (as to) those on whose part you fear desertion,
admonish them, and leave them alone in the sleeping-places and beat them; the
if they obey you, do not seek a way against them, surely Allah is High, Great"
(An-Nisaa '4:34).
A friend named Hakim bin Mua'wiyah bin al-Maidah Qusyairi ra ever heard
him say that he once asked the Prophet, "O Messenger of Allah! What are the rights of the husband and wife we?
"The Messenger of Allah said which means:" Feed him when you eat and
when you give him clothes to dress
. " (Narrated by Abu Dawood in
his Sunan Abu Dawood, no. 1830).
According to this history, Islamic law depute to the husband to bear
the expense of food and clothes for wife
and children, and this includes suitable accommodation, transportation, and
medical treatment when sick. For example, a husband is able to provide hearty
meals for his wife and children, such as rice and fish are suitable, it is
calculated has provided enough sustenance even days of eating fish and
vegetables and only once a month to eat meat or chicken.
Money should be provided at certain amount give to the wife in an
appropriate and reasonable rates for savings and also to cope with emergency
cases. A husband who does not provide a stipend appropriate and reasonable is
calculated to have committed financial terrorism to the wife, if the wife is
a housewife who did not have any income other than money given by the husband.
A wife who work are also entitled to alimony to complete dressing
including socks, underwear, scarves and so on minimum 2 pair within a year. All this needs to rely on a
reasonable basis in accordance with legislation. Mean, if husband provide
clothing that is not good, too rare to uncover nakedness, or set up a home but
have no electricity or water, or food prepared but not nutritious and
affordable husband, the husband like this is categorized as a stingy husband.
Islamic law also stipulates the maintenance rate is based on the
ability of a husband and the husband is not fair to burden himself beyond their
capabilities. If the husband refuses to give maintenance of basic living need.,
then wife are entitled to take the money without his husband knowledge
according to the needs of families expenses. This is justified by Islamic law.
This argumentation of the following:
Prophet Muhammad was asked by the wife of Abu Sufyan, Utbah bin Rabi'a
who came to complain to the Prophet, "O Messenger of Allah, Abu
Sufyan is a miserly husband. Can I take part of their property to the needs of
our families? "The Prophet said, which means," It's okay for you to
just your need with kindness. "
(Narrated by Al-Bukhari)
If faced with a stingy husband, the wife may take secretly
appropriate sum of money to cover
expenses for the fit and proper requirements for herself and children, servants,
if any, without incurring any sin, even the wife actually has eased the burden
of God's punishment of her husband in one lane in hereafter. Scholars have
argued, with kindness in taking the property means of moderation and not to damage the
property of the husband. If it is discovered by her husband and fighting,
forcing a husband and wife can ask for separation (divorce) by the Shariah
Court order.
What I am practicing regarding the monthly expenses for my spouse and
children, every month I provided sum amount for family maintenance, pocket
money for my wife and also sum amount to assist my parent. Every month I would
give to my wife 10 % of my basic salary
and 10% to my patent.
I still remember the first month of my first salary in 1980.
"Honey, take this," I gift the envelop to my wife upon
receiving my first pay salary..
"What is inside Bang" my wife asked with surprise.
"This money is for your expenses"
The wife opened the envelope and saw the money RM100 she bit sighted.
"Thank you Bang, too much for me"
"Not that much honey". I just to convinces her.
"How much your monthly pay Bang." Wife asked for more info.
"A thousand, a reduction of the honey RM100 and RM100 for Wan and
Che" I told my wife about my wish.
Since that date every month I'd promised to bleak for father and mother,
I call Wan and Che, and my wife.
So I have put my commitment to ensure maintenance to my
wife and family starting the year 1980.
In line with the passage of time and expending of my family by
providence of God to us. In 1997 my monthly income has increase to 4 digit a
month. I still set a value of 10% for my wife and 10% for mom and dad. By put a
side of every month salary I manage to fulfill my duty and responsibility to my
wife, family and parent without fail.
Every month I will give the mandate to my wife to kept save all the family maintenance money of our family. If necessary I will back
sum of money from time to time if need to spent. My rationale for conducting
this method because it can expose and educate my wife an important responsibility in keeping the
family finances (finance minister's to the family).
This trust is deliberately gave my wife as an inducement to her. To
motivate the feeling of responsibility to the family and also to be able experiencing how the responsibility of
maintaining the financial welfare of the family as a tuff job. Such situations bring awareness to the need
for thrifty wife in the shop and have to spend within their means husband.
This method has also been able to
convince my wife that I am a husband is the one who is so confident and love to
her. Whose spending so much money each month to wife and her has to take care
for safety and spending wisely. After all I have done in such a way as to
appear in the first month I gave a mandate to the wife, she was well enough to
trust in the saving account of family expenses.
Besides, I did a tactical way is
to establish a friendly relationship between my wife and my mother and my father. Every month the money will be given to cover
the expenses of both my parents. I trust my wife to deliver the money each
month. This way there will be love
between wife and both my mother and father. Because in the eyes of my parents
it will form a positive impression of their daughter in law is a very merciful
and take care of them. This tactic makes our family relationship between my
wife and my parents are always in very good condition, the situation is
prolong till this day.
Occasionally when have a little
more money, I will inform my wife that myself
will give some money to her parents, and I personally will give the
money to her mom and dad.. This action was done by me is to give confidence to
the farther-in-law that his son in law is a hearted and generous person, when
his financial surplus will be given to both of them. This practice has created
a bond of friendship, family on both sides of husband and wife can be
maintained in peace and always friendly and cheerful every time.
Tips:
1. The granting alimony to the wife is
the husband's responsibility as was laid down by Islamic family law. The
husband must provide for physical and spiritual well and according to ability
of husband. The husband should be responsible for ensuring that his income every month it can at least meet the basic needs
to maintain family expenses.
2. Giving the responsibility of the wife
to save and manage money spending each month is a good practice. This will bond
a good ties and strong relationship between husband and wife. Understanding the
care of the household will bring happiness between husband and wife also the
bonding of their loyalty love will be evergreen forever.
3. Giving money to parents of husband and
wife need to get mutual understanding. For husband he is responsible to help his
parents if they cannot afford. Wife must understand this responsibility is the
ordinance of God. For a woman who has a husband awareness about responsibility to their parents, presenting
his actions help his father in law is a smart move to create an intimate
relationship between them.
4. Good husband is always taking care the
maintenance of the family, and he will work hard to get better monthly income
that will be a sufficient enough for the family monthly expenses. The effort of
husband to get a hallal income for their family to be calculated as one of the
warship to Allah and will be reward with by Mercy of Allah and able to get into
heaven in hereafter.
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